"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Caught up again!!!!

bdr23

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Here's a brief summary of the situation

-Was dating for about a year.
-We broke up basically because we were seeing too much of each other like seeing and sleeping with each other everyday and got frustrated with each other often.
-We did not talk for about 2 weeks, then started talking again.
-I work where she lives but I moved away so I commute to work now.


Here is what is happening right now
-Talking now and I have slept at her house about 5 times in the last 10 days. Had sex and was going to again last night but I got messed up a little too much. We kiss affectionatley and everything.
-She brought up letting me stay at her house a couple times a week so I agreed.
-Me and her tell each other that we love each other and she always asks me if I do and I say yes or you know the answer.
-She also kind of brought up what she wants and vice or versa. She says she doesnt know what she wants and I didnt really tell her what I want. But I want her as my gf again i try not to tell her know that, maybe my actions do though

I feel that we are getting close too each other again but if she ends up not wanting to be in a relationship again then that sucks. Maybe deep down inside she does too i dont know. Right now my cell phone is shut off and it will stay off for the next couple of days im suppose to stay over her house tomorrow cause I need to think about what im getting into and be unavailable ;). Im not going to bring up where we are at or what I want I know thats her job. But what else can I do here? I dont know if i should leave or stay around its hard I can just pick up and leave.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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frivolousz21

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you need to bring Balance to the Force.


how old are you?

it seems you spent way to much time with her.

I mean seeing your girl 4 or 5 times a week is great.

but if ur spending the night as well..that can be overkill.

bring balance to ur life and it will fall in place.
 

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See other women do you? If not, perhaps this will aid in clarifying answers my young padawan.

See her too much you do. She senses your desperation for a relationship.

One-itis do you have.

:nervous:
 

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Im 22 and shes 24. Im going to try to bring balance its good that I dont live up here with her anymore right now. Im not with her right now "technically" weve only been hanging out again for about 2 weeks after not being together for about a month. I just dont like not knowing where we stand but I know I cant bring it up cause it might scare her. Im the type of person that just wants to get things doen right then and there but I try to have a lot of self control
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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bdr23

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well i was basically living there I had a house cause I was in college also but I would stay at her house basically everynight and be with her everynight. I know there is a possibility of getting back together since im not living next to her anymore so therefore would only see each other a couple times a week
 
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