"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Caught a female friend cheating on her bf
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Scrumtulescence
Master Don Juan
If you tell him that someone told you she was cheating but that you don't know for a fact, that should take the heat off you because you're giving him second hand info...and it will make him dig for facts.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
I caught a girl cheating on my best friend.. they had been dating for about a year and a half, this was this time last year... they are still dating now. They way I see it is, he was cheating on her as well, I would be a hypocrite if I told him what was going on and she had no idea what was going on... this isn't mY relationship therefore it's not MY problem. i have enough problems as it is.
As for me, I figure if I am even in the situtation where I think my GF is cheating on me, it's my fault for not leaving her.. I've never had a situtation where my gut told me something was wrong with this girl or a relationship and it not be right
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Those are possibilities, yes. Depends on what the guy and the girl is like. Confronting anyone without evidence is never wise, they can just turn things back on you easily and you come off worse. So if you have any kind of evidence, then confront her or tell him and let them do what they feel they need to do.Wyldfire said:Well, if you tell your friend he might not believe you. If you confront the girl she will deny it and then likely try to casue a rift between you and her boyfriend. She could even tell him you hit on her or touched her inappropriately or something.
If you tell him that someone told you she was cheating but that you don't know for a fact, that should take the heat off you because you're giving him second hand info...and it will make him dig for facts.
Personally if i didn't have any evidence i'd create a story to get my friend thinking about the possibility of being cheated on. Mix into the story any signs you know she's made of cheating, and let his mind do the rest. I hate the method, yet anything more direct without evidence is just going to end badly. Even with evidence, it's going to end badly in the short term if you get involved.
I don't envy the position you are in.
"Hey I'm going to get home early from meeting today."
"Uh ok hold on."
I hang up. Something's wrong. Since I was already close home.
I open door. See the guy's **** in her *****.
I wanted to go on a killing spree.
I got cheated on.
Scrumtulescence
Master Don Juan
Damn, that sucks. What a ho. Was that recently?sifer said:Letme put it this way. My mind is killing me so things may not be coherent.
"Hey I'm going to get home early from meeting today."
"Uh ok hold on."
I hang up. Something's wrong. Since I was already close home.
I open door. See the guy's **** in her *****.
I wanted to go on a killing spree.
I got cheated on.
diplomatic_lies
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Whatever you do, keep in mind that if you get involved in your friends' love life, it WILL be messy. For you.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
insanity
Master Don Juan
i think i may have been cheated on once. i never did catch her, but this rung a bell in my head after being broke up with her months later. i remember watching the maury show on cheaters and my girlfriend at the time looked at me and said "if you cheated on me i don't think i would dump you". "i would be mad at you though". if you really look at that in ********, it's like she was saying if i cheat on you you can only get mad at me.