"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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jiza101

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ok ok,
first off all im not just chasing one chick, but i need advice on a certain one. Well shes new to the school, she hangs out with nerds. I hang with the "cool" group, i spoke to her in my math class yesterday, and then for like 1 hour on a spare, with my mates, but it was 80% me just talking to her while my mates shat on to eatchother. Anyways i read a post which stated once shes spoken to u for a long enough time for her to know what ure like HIDE, and let her catch u or somethin like that. Im not sure if she wants me though, so im wondering if i need to talk to her a bit more. Anyways can you gimme some advice please to help me get this chick. The other chicks im approaching at school, are "easier". I see this chick like only in maths class which is like 4 times a week. I dont see her at lunch or anything, i play soccer with mates every lunch.
Advice please guys
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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wel, im not quite sure if you've given her much to miss about you yet but...

tel u wat. if you really do wanna 'hide' by letting her miss you, try doing this. just hang out and have fun whenever you're with your mates.

one good opportunity would be to let her see you playing soccer. (hoping that you're not getting slammed, anyway.)

and besides, since she's gonna be hanging out with the nerds, it's not gonna be so hard when she finally gets to hang out with a DJ. i mean, nerds are supposedly nice guys. that's what i think.

keep us updated.
 

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I think what Alejandro was saying about soccer could be pretty sweet...If you guys are pretty good (or humorously terrible), you could drop something about her watching one of your games. Something like:

You: "blah blah blah"
Her: "blah blah blah"
You: "Yeah, I've got this big soccer game <whenever>. You should make some room on your schedule and come check it out."
Her: "Do me."

Something like that anyway...you get the idea.

I'm not sure if you really need to "hide" from her...Just dont always always always be availible. That, and dont have three hour conversations with her. A good rule of thumb is, "the less you know about someone, the more there is to talk about."
 

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haha,
i got her to have a kick of soccer with me before lunch. She wouldnt kick the ball though lol.. She watched us **** around for a few mins then she left, then lunch started. As for my conversation i realise i ****ed it up. We spoke for like 45 min about eatchother, not about the unexpected calls.. I regret that majorly... So yer, u think i should just not talk to her to much like i am now, and just let her chase me ???
What if she dont chase me, i might need to show her more bout me and my good qualitites :?
lol our conversation was around a few of my mates at a coffee place. she sat infront of me and my mates next to us. We were on the end. Anyways cause shes new i just asked her about her past, and what subjects shes doing.. I even bagged her friend LOL, which i should not have done but hay she even laughed cause everyone bags her friend who has the fattest legs u have ever seen.. but yer it was good to have a convo with her, although i can see it was boring.. I see her on monday in maths, u recon i just lay low, OR i can speak to my friend/hers who sits next to her the whole class LOL. Im sure she might get a bit cut.
Anyway more ideas
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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