"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Catch and Release as a form of warm up and momentum shifter

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Anyone here do Catch and release when doing pick up? It’s like a ritual to experience fishermen, something they do for good luck and to remind them of abundance . It’s like a momentum shifter and will put you on a not so needy vibe, I tried it at a local bowling alley out here and I got two numbers afterwards because it helps put you in a good frame and the girls can feel that vibe. What do you guys think? It’s like talking to coffee shop baristas as a warm up, but possibly better.

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Anyone here do Catch and release when doing pick up? It’s like a ritual to experience fishermen, something they do for good luck and to remind them of abundance . It’s like a momentum shifter and will put you on a not so needy vibe, I tried it at a local bowling alley out here and I got two numbers afterwards because it helps put you in a good frame and the girls can feel that vibe. What do you guys think? It’s like talking to coffee shop baristas as a warm up, but possibly better.
so you are practice getting phone numbers. that's actually good. at what point do you release ?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hi Memoirs,
Love your humour,I always give my liberated fish a kiss before I put them back...Suggest you do that with your Women LOL.
 
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You are one weird dude.
I'll cut him some slack...


What he's trying to say is ;
Sometimes you wanna " plant a seed" and let a woman know you are alive. You might greet her, have a really " small conversation " and then poof you just vanish. Stick and move stick and move.

Might have some merit when you go order a drink, pass by a woman and ofcourse you're vibe/ aura is topnotch that night.

For some guys this might work, because that particular woman might follow you somewhat and as the night progresses and people get more drunk and loose you might continue the interaction when the iron is even hotter.
 

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I'll cut him some slack...


What he's trying to say is ;
Sometimes you wanna " plant a seed" and let a woman know you are alive. You might greet her, have a really " small conversation " and then poof you just vanish. Stick and move stick and move.

Might have some merit when you go order a drink, pass by a woman and ofcourse you're vibe/ aura is topnotch that night.

For some guys this might work, because that particular woman might follow you somewhat and as the night progresses and people get more drunk and loose you might continue the interaction when the iron is even hotter.
That's honestly how I interpret it. I flirt around on the go just as a habit. I stop myself though as I'm happy with where I am at the moment. I think it's in every guys nature to some degree to know that he's still "got it."
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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