"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Catch and Release as a form of warm up and momentum shifter

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Anyone here do Catch and release when doing pick up? It’s like a ritual to experience fishermen, something they do for good luck and to remind them of abundance . It’s like a momentum shifter and will put you on a not so needy vibe, I tried it at a local bowling alley out here and I got two numbers afterwards because it helps put you in a good frame and the girls can feel that vibe. What do you guys think? It’s like talking to coffee shop baristas as a warm up, but possibly better.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Anyone here do Catch and release when doing pick up? It’s like a ritual to experience fishermen, something they do for good luck and to remind them of abundance . It’s like a momentum shifter and will put you on a not so needy vibe, I tried it at a local bowling alley out here and I got two numbers afterwards because it helps put you in a good frame and the girls can feel that vibe. What do you guys think? It’s like talking to coffee shop baristas as a warm up, but possibly better.
so you are practice getting phone numbers. that's actually good. at what point do you release ?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hi Memoirs,
Love your humour,I always give my liberated fish a kiss before I put them back...Suggest you do that with your Women LOL.
 
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You are one weird dude.
I'll cut him some slack...


What he's trying to say is ;
Sometimes you wanna " plant a seed" and let a woman know you are alive. You might greet her, have a really " small conversation " and then poof you just vanish. Stick and move stick and move.

Might have some merit when you go order a drink, pass by a woman and ofcourse you're vibe/ aura is topnotch that night.

For some guys this might work, because that particular woman might follow you somewhat and as the night progresses and people get more drunk and loose you might continue the interaction when the iron is even hotter.
 

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I'll cut him some slack...


What he's trying to say is ;
Sometimes you wanna " plant a seed" and let a woman know you are alive. You might greet her, have a really " small conversation " and then poof you just vanish. Stick and move stick and move.

Might have some merit when you go order a drink, pass by a woman and ofcourse you're vibe/ aura is topnotch that night.

For some guys this might work, because that particular woman might follow you somewhat and as the night progresses and people get more drunk and loose you might continue the interaction when the iron is even hotter.
That's honestly how I interpret it. I flirt around on the go just as a habit. I stop myself though as I'm happy with where I am at the moment. I think it's in every guys nature to some degree to know that he's still "got it."
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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