"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Stallionstud

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So here’s the thing, I just moved to a new state where I know no one. In a relatively small city. Here is my problem.

To build a social circle I’m going to bars, brewery’s, music shows, ect talking to people ect. However a majority of the time I’m at these places I’m sitting by myself looking lonely and desperate AF, I’m almost sure this is/has lead to a bad first impression on any potential plates that see this.

I tried being a regular at one place, almost sure one of the bar tenders c blocked me with her friend. So now I try to switch up where I go for beers and when but that’s the best I can do.

Input advice? Hopefully spring/summer weather makes this easier. If I’m in this same position next winter I’m fvcked
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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wifehunter

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Try not to think about it. Too much effort will put you 'off center'. Focus on other things.
 

sosousage

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So here’s the thing, I just moved to a new state where I know no one. In a relatively small city. Here is my problem.

To build a social circle I’m going to bars, brewery’s, music shows, ect talking to people ect. However a majority of the time I’m at these places I’m sitting by myself looking lonely and desperate AF, I’m almost sure this is/has lead to a bad first impression on any potential plates that see this.

I tried being a regular at one place, almost sure one of the bar tenders c blocked me with her friend. So now I try to switch up where I go for beers and when but that’s the best I can do.

Input advice? Hopefully spring/summer weather makes this easier. If I’m in this same position next winter I’m fvcked
switch your tinder to gay mode, explain in bio you look just for nonsexual friends, they will still want to meet you
 

ubercat

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New in Town meetup groups. Level playing field. And a mixed the sport e.g. futsal. Think first and then with your ****
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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devilkingx2

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make sure you don't have resting b!tch face, be social and friendly, and I doubt anyone thinks badly of you solely because you don't have a posse following you 24/7

alternatively pay an escort (or two) to go with you places so you're not alone
 
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