"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Catch 22

Stallionstud

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So here’s the thing, I just moved to a new state where I know no one. In a relatively small city. Here is my problem.

To build a social circle I’m going to bars, brewery’s, music shows, ect talking to people ect. However a majority of the time I’m at these places I’m sitting by myself looking lonely and desperate AF, I’m almost sure this is/has lead to a bad first impression on any potential plates that see this.

I tried being a regular at one place, almost sure one of the bar tenders c blocked me with her friend. So now I try to switch up where I go for beers and when but that’s the best I can do.

Input advice? Hopefully spring/summer weather makes this easier. If I’m in this same position next winter I’m fvcked
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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wifehunter

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Try not to think about it. Too much effort will put you 'off center'. Focus on other things.
 

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So here’s the thing, I just moved to a new state where I know no one. In a relatively small city. Here is my problem.

To build a social circle I’m going to bars, brewery’s, music shows, ect talking to people ect. However a majority of the time I’m at these places I’m sitting by myself looking lonely and desperate AF, I’m almost sure this is/has lead to a bad first impression on any potential plates that see this.

I tried being a regular at one place, almost sure one of the bar tenders c blocked me with her friend. So now I try to switch up where I go for beers and when but that’s the best I can do.

Input advice? Hopefully spring/summer weather makes this easier. If I’m in this same position next winter I’m fvcked
switch your tinder to gay mode, explain in bio you look just for nonsexual friends, they will still want to meet you
 

ubercat

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New in Town meetup groups. Level playing field. And a mixed the sport e.g. futsal. Think first and then with your ****
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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devilkingx2

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make sure you don't have resting b!tch face, be social and friendly, and I doubt anyone thinks badly of you solely because you don't have a posse following you 24/7

alternatively pay an escort (or two) to go with you places so you're not alone
 
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