"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Well. I had been talking to a girl for 2 months now and last Friday was the first time we met in person because of my shyness. Anyway. I chose a bad day cause she was mad but she promised me we could
talk Monday. Now I need some help on how to start and keep a conversation going. Any ideas?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Wow. Bit of a broad question don't you think?

Anyway, just talk to the girl like someone you've known forever. Don't overthink it, just talk about whatever comes to mind. Only one way to get good at casual convo, and that's to just get out there and do it. You may have a few setbacks but that's just part of the process.
 
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questionss

does something like :hows your day sound so far? then so whatsup? what class you got next? what math you got? - how you doing in it, you need any help?
or should i ask stuff like

what movies you like?
 
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Not quite. If you want to keep a convo going you need something that requires more than a one word answer.

My favorite way to strike up a convo with a girl I know: what's up killer?
 
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Start very general: Hows it going...then use what she says and go off that.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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