"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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case of oneitis, and all rapport is lost..

gimmeyofonenumba

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I started talking to this one chick, in one of my classes, the class is pretty big about 50 peeps or so. Anyways, i talked to her during class, we kinda goofed off when it got kinda boring. Then it came time for a group project, it was me her and a few other people in the group, I thought it would be smooth sailing, I applied some kino, and she fed back some as well, but as I was talking to her, i didnt really feel a connection. So things started to fade, then I frickin developed oneitis, now i always think about her, and i havent even said a word to her within a few days, she frickin sits right near the exit door, and zips right outa class when its over, doesnt even give me time to glance her direction. Should I next her? I'd really like to salvage something from this, but if not, I NEED TO GET HER OUTA MY HEAD! We have a final in 2 days, and i was gonna email some peeps out to a study session, should i invite her? maybe say something like...stop running away, all the time.?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

Caveman

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Originally posted by gimmeyofonenumba
but as I was talking to her, i didnt really feel a connection.
She is not interested. Forget her.
 

gimmeyofonenumba

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ya... thats what im thinking, funny thing is, last time i talked to her, i was really gonna lay it on heavy, and ask her out to lunch, but instead i just talked with her to the parking lot, because i had to meet up with some peeps. I feel like giving her a call and saying yo, wtf i wanna talk to you. Dont have her # though...
 

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Then it came time for a group project, it was me her and a few other people in the group, I thought it would be smooth sailing, I applied some kino
You don't know her well enough to apply kino or even know that she has a bf.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Caveman

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Dude! She is not interested. Forget her. Any time or effort you spend on this girl will only drive her further away. I know it's not easy but you are waisting your time.

Get studying for your finals, and when you're done, go out and focus on other girls.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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And stop sarging one woman at a time. You're setting yourself up for one-itis whenever you do that.
 
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