"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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case of oneitis, and all rapport is lost..

gimmeyofonenumba

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I started talking to this one chick, in one of my classes, the class is pretty big about 50 peeps or so. Anyways, i talked to her during class, we kinda goofed off when it got kinda boring. Then it came time for a group project, it was me her and a few other people in the group, I thought it would be smooth sailing, I applied some kino, and she fed back some as well, but as I was talking to her, i didnt really feel a connection. So things started to fade, then I frickin developed oneitis, now i always think about her, and i havent even said a word to her within a few days, she frickin sits right near the exit door, and zips right outa class when its over, doesnt even give me time to glance her direction. Should I next her? I'd really like to salvage something from this, but if not, I NEED TO GET HER OUTA MY HEAD! We have a final in 2 days, and i was gonna email some peeps out to a study session, should i invite her? maybe say something like...stop running away, all the time.?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

Caveman

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Originally posted by gimmeyofonenumba
but as I was talking to her, i didnt really feel a connection.
She is not interested. Forget her.
 

gimmeyofonenumba

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ya... thats what im thinking, funny thing is, last time i talked to her, i was really gonna lay it on heavy, and ask her out to lunch, but instead i just talked with her to the parking lot, because i had to meet up with some peeps. I feel like giving her a call and saying yo, wtf i wanna talk to you. Dont have her # though...
 

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Then it came time for a group project, it was me her and a few other people in the group, I thought it would be smooth sailing, I applied some kino
You don't know her well enough to apply kino or even know that she has a bf.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Caveman

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Dude! She is not interested. Forget her. Any time or effort you spend on this girl will only drive her further away. I know it's not easy but you are waisting your time.

Get studying for your finals, and when you're done, go out and focus on other girls.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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And stop sarging one woman at a time. You're setting yourself up for one-itis whenever you do that.
 
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