"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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case of oneitis, and all rapport is lost..

gimmeyofonenumba

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I started talking to this one chick, in one of my classes, the class is pretty big about 50 peeps or so. Anyways, i talked to her during class, we kinda goofed off when it got kinda boring. Then it came time for a group project, it was me her and a few other people in the group, I thought it would be smooth sailing, I applied some kino, and she fed back some as well, but as I was talking to her, i didnt really feel a connection. So things started to fade, then I frickin developed oneitis, now i always think about her, and i havent even said a word to her within a few days, she frickin sits right near the exit door, and zips right outa class when its over, doesnt even give me time to glance her direction. Should I next her? I'd really like to salvage something from this, but if not, I NEED TO GET HER OUTA MY HEAD! We have a final in 2 days, and i was gonna email some peeps out to a study session, should i invite her? maybe say something like...stop running away, all the time.?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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Originally posted by gimmeyofonenumba
but as I was talking to her, i didnt really feel a connection.
She is not interested. Forget her.
 

gimmeyofonenumba

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ya... thats what im thinking, funny thing is, last time i talked to her, i was really gonna lay it on heavy, and ask her out to lunch, but instead i just talked with her to the parking lot, because i had to meet up with some peeps. I feel like giving her a call and saying yo, wtf i wanna talk to you. Dont have her # though...
 

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Then it came time for a group project, it was me her and a few other people in the group, I thought it would be smooth sailing, I applied some kino
You don't know her well enough to apply kino or even know that she has a bf.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Caveman

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Dude! She is not interested. Forget her. Any time or effort you spend on this girl will only drive her further away. I know it's not easy but you are waisting your time.

Get studying for your finals, and when you're done, go out and focus on other girls.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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And stop sarging one woman at a time. You're setting yourself up for one-itis whenever you do that.
 
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