"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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kelv

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I have been spending too much time on this DJ stuffs, watching seminars, reading DJ books so much so that I feel I could have spent all this time on my career and future.
I have got great plans mapped out for my career and tonnes of things to accomplish eg to help shape the world in a better way, earn more money for my family, carve a name for myself but when I feel the loneliness creeping in, I goes right back to the DJ stuffs hoping it will help me attract women. I wouldn’t compromise risking my future for all these DJ stuffs but its seriously taking up alot of my time. It seems that Im so craving some female company. What should I do man!?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mantis Toboggan

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Why do you make it sound like it's one or the other?

You can keep control of your career and personal goals and still get women. It's not like all the successful people you read about spent 100% of their time building their lives, and THEN got women.
 

NorwegianDJ

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Dude. You simply stop reading material, and spend that time going out. It doesn't sound like you are actually going out, meeting and approaching women. Satisfy that craving for female company, cause your DJ articles and right hand aren't gonna do that for you.

Ultimately, do what makes you happy.
 

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kelv said:
I have been spending too much time on this DJ stuffs, watching seminars, reading DJ books so much so that I feel I could have spent all this time on my career and future.
You don't know it but you have. Women are just a reflection of the world. They don't like you for who you are, they like you for what you can do for them.

If you ever manage to find one who likes you for who you are (need to be absolutely sure) then f*cking marry the girl right then and there.

I have got great plans mapped out for my career and tonnes of things to accomplish eg to help shape the world in a better way, earn more money for my family, carve a name for myself but when I feel the loneliness creeping in, I goes right back to the DJ stuffs hoping it will help me attract women. I wouldn’t compromise risking my future for all these DJ stuffs but its seriously taking up alot of my time. It seems that Im so craving some female company. What should I do man!?
I think you should get some female company like you want. Life isn't worth living if it's all work. You need some time to play. Find a balance that works for you.
 

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Every single American prick believes he is going to change the world! Haha! What a surprise you are going to have. 20 years from now you will still be jerking into the toilet. Only difference is you will have given up about changing the world and instead will be dealing with kids and a wife that you can't stand.

Do you know how I know? Because I was once you!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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