"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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kelv

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I have been spending too much time on this DJ stuffs, watching seminars, reading DJ books so much so that I feel I could have spent all this time on my career and future.
I have got great plans mapped out for my career and tonnes of things to accomplish eg to help shape the world in a better way, earn more money for my family, carve a name for myself but when I feel the loneliness creeping in, I goes right back to the DJ stuffs hoping it will help me attract women. I wouldn’t compromise risking my future for all these DJ stuffs but its seriously taking up alot of my time. It seems that Im so craving some female company. What should I do man!?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Mantis Toboggan

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Why do you make it sound like it's one or the other?

You can keep control of your career and personal goals and still get women. It's not like all the successful people you read about spent 100% of their time building their lives, and THEN got women.
 

NorwegianDJ

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Dude. You simply stop reading material, and spend that time going out. It doesn't sound like you are actually going out, meeting and approaching women. Satisfy that craving for female company, cause your DJ articles and right hand aren't gonna do that for you.

Ultimately, do what makes you happy.
 

Alle_Gory

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kelv said:
I have been spending too much time on this DJ stuffs, watching seminars, reading DJ books so much so that I feel I could have spent all this time on my career and future.
You don't know it but you have. Women are just a reflection of the world. They don't like you for who you are, they like you for what you can do for them.

If you ever manage to find one who likes you for who you are (need to be absolutely sure) then f*cking marry the girl right then and there.

I have got great plans mapped out for my career and tonnes of things to accomplish eg to help shape the world in a better way, earn more money for my family, carve a name for myself but when I feel the loneliness creeping in, I goes right back to the DJ stuffs hoping it will help me attract women. I wouldn’t compromise risking my future for all these DJ stuffs but its seriously taking up alot of my time. It seems that Im so craving some female company. What should I do man!?
I think you should get some female company like you want. Life isn't worth living if it's all work. You need some time to play. Find a balance that works for you.
 

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Every single American prick believes he is going to change the world! Haha! What a surprise you are going to have. 20 years from now you will still be jerking into the toilet. Only difference is you will have given up about changing the world and instead will be dealing with kids and a wife that you can't stand.

Do you know how I know? Because I was once you!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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