She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
:cuss: :nono: :box: :trouble:int3l said:apparently all cardio harms weight gain.
lolWarboss Alex said::cuss: :nono: :box: :trouble:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
...Quiksilver said:Example:
-45 minutes on a treadmill, fast walk(4-5), at a 5.0% incline.
-30 minutes on an eliptical, moderate pace, moderate intensity
-30 minutes on a rowing machine, moderate pace, light intensity
-45 minute bike ride
If you're up above 30 minutes, keep the intensity low(no sprints, no running).
oh sh!t. okay before warboss hunts me down and kills me let me just clarify something, what i meant to say was the common belief is that cardio 'may possibly' harm weight gain, however it is possible to burn fat and gain muscle at the same time. It's just slower.Warboss Alex said::cuss: :nono: :box: :trouble:
int3l said:oh sh!t. okay before warboss hunts me down and kills me let me just clarify something, what i meant to say was the common belief is that cardio 'may possibly' harm weight gain, however it is possible to burn fat and gain muscle at the same time. It's just slower.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.