"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Can't stay erect during intercourse

SamMalone

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Anyone else have this problem? I'm still in my early 20s and can't stay hard while doing it. I've heard that if you masturbate too much this could happen so I'm going to stop, although I wasn't doing it that much before. Anyone have any tips?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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just RELAX...loosen up those muscles, and yeah masterbating a lot can be the problem to for two reasons.

one you just aren't that horny when the time comes...and two...you watch all that porn and regular sex just doesn't cut it anymore
 

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Your problem most likely stems from being nervous. Just relax, take a couple of deep breaths, and focus on the females body ( assuming that it is a nice body that turns you on ). Then just go with the flow.
 

War Against Betaism

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I've noticed that I have had problems staying hard when I had no feelings for the girl.
 

meitenesrigas

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Go to the doctor. Asking for medical advice on here makes me wonder if you are legit. or not.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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lordson

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you can't do anything if your sex drive is down because you're wathcing too much porn and masturbating to it

just stop the porn and masturbating and your sex drive will be up again, and youll have no problems getting it up and keeping it up

the only problem youll have is holding off blowing your load
 

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What condoms are you using???
for me, this makes a HUGE diference.

also, less porn, and excersize more...
 

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My 2 cents:

* Get a girl who you are really comfortable with (with me, it was nerves - I was so busy thinking about where to kiss and where to tweak that my **** got scared by all the intellectualising and retreat into it's shell).

Have sex regularly, and make sure she is cool with your 'problem'. You'll feel far less pressure, and if you have a good rapport with the girl, you should CONDITION your body and your mind into a more relaxed state when you have sex. Hello erection.

* Don't rush it. The worst thing that can happen is thinking 'OMG I NEED TO BE HARD RIGHT NOW'. It gets you tense. If you lose wood, just slow things down, kiss, be passionate. If she's worth a damn she'll understand.

* If you lose your erection, give your girl *great foreplay*. She won't give a damn if you lost your wood if you're eating her out like a berzerk genius. In fact, variety is what makes sex great.

This is basically how I solved it. If I lost my erection, I'd just eat my girl out, finger her like a pro or caress her whole body. Not only did she LOVE this, but it gave me the confidence of knowing that no matter how unreliable my **** was, I'd still avoid humiliation/embarassment/ruining the sex.

With that confidence, I became more and more relaxed and instinctual in bed. Now I never, ever lose my erection, but before I was going through like ten condoms every time we had sex!

Foreplay + Generous Lover = satisfied girl

Satisfied Girl + Lots of Sex + Relaxed body state = train your body to stay hard.

= Erecto Supremo.


Also, hit the gym, because it'll give you better flexibility and stamina. :up:

Anyone else got any bright ideas?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Rollo Tomassi

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Exercise before you get after it. Seriously. If you know you're going to get laid at a certain point in the day, plan to work out about 2 hours prior. Stay away from booze, stay away from energy drinks (up to two hours prior) as you'll crash after drinking them.

Beyond that, I can only hope you're GF/FB isn't so fat that she doesn't arouse you. Obvious, but it needed to be stated.
 

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Could always try the following from Wikipedia. Who knows but couldn't hurt most likely.

To me alcohol has always been the number one cause. Exercise helps ton. Stop masturbating, the rough touch of the hand could desensitize you compared to the soft feel of the vagina.

Relax. Do alot of foreplay. Have her blow you. The normal things you know.


Red ginseng (Korean=홍삼, simplified Chinese: 红蔘; traditional Chinese: 紅蔘), is Panax ginseng that has been heated, either through steaming or sun-drying. It is frequently marinated in an herbal brew which results in the root becoming extremely brittle. This version of ginseng is traditionally associated with stimulating sexual function and increasing energy. Red ginseng is always produced from cultivated roots, usually from either China or South Korea.

In 2002, a preliminary double-blind, crossover study of Korean red ginseng's effects on impotence reported that it can be an effective alternative for treating male erectile dysfunction.[16]
 

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Desdinova said:
Stop smoking (if you do smoke). I couldn't believe the difference it made.

Did you quit cold turkey, or did you use something. I'm really wanting to kick the habit. I'm around alot of smokers, and they are always asking me if I want to smoke. So its hard to quit, you know?

By the way, did you ever notice how a much better a non-smoker's pvssy tastes as opposed to a smoker's pvssy... huge difference.:crazy:
 

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meitenesrigas said:
Go to the doctor. Asking for medical advice on here makes me wonder if you are legit. or not.
Is there no limit to your idiocy? He knows we're not fvcking Doctors he's asking if we have had the same issue and our OPINIONS.

This is what men do.

Christ.
 

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Aboleo said:
Did you quit cold turkey, or did you use something. I'm really wanting to kick the habit. I'm around alot of smokers, and they are always asking me if I want to smoke. So its hard to quit, you know?
There's no trick. It comes down to how much you trust yourself and your will.

By the way, did you ever notice how a much better a non-smoker's pvssy tastes as opposed to a smoker's pvssy... huge difference.:crazy:
So fvcking true. From an ashtray to a peach!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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specialed said:
and two...you watch all that porn and regular sex just doesn't cut it anymore
holy s.hit! I never thought about that. :nervous:
 
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