Anyone else have this problem? I'm still in my early 20s and can't stay hard while doing it. I've heard that if you masturbate too much this could happen so I'm going to stop, although I wasn't doing it that much before. Anyone have any tips?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Can't stay erect during intercourse
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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just RELAX...loosen up those muscles, and yeah masterbating a lot can be the problem to for two reasons.
one you just aren't that horny when the time comes...and two...you watch all that porn and regular sex just doesn't cut it anymore
one you just aren't that horny when the time comes...and two...you watch all that porn and regular sex just doesn't cut it anymore
DJ React
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Your problem most likely stems from being nervous. Just relax, take a couple of deep breaths, and focus on the females body ( assuming that it is a nice body that turns you on ). Then just go with the flow.
War Against Betaism
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I've noticed that I have had problems staying hard when I had no feelings for the girl.
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Go to the doctor. Asking for medical advice on here makes me wonder if you are legit. or not.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Are you still drinking?
There is a thing called whiskey **** ya know
There is a thing called whiskey **** ya know
you can't do anything if your sex drive is down because you're wathcing too much porn and masturbating to it
just stop the porn and masturbating and your sex drive will be up again, and youll have no problems getting it up and keeping it up
the only problem youll have is holding off blowing your load
just stop the porn and masturbating and your sex drive will be up again, and youll have no problems getting it up and keeping it up
the only problem youll have is holding off blowing your load
spider_007
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What condoms are you using???
for me, this makes a HUGE diference.
also, less porn, and excersize more...
for me, this makes a HUGE diference.
also, less porn, and excersize more...
SalParadise
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My 2 cents:
* Get a girl who you are really comfortable with (with me, it was nerves - I was so busy thinking about where to kiss and where to tweak that my **** got scared by all the intellectualising and retreat into it's shell).
Have sex regularly, and make sure she is cool with your 'problem'. You'll feel far less pressure, and if you have a good rapport with the girl, you should CONDITION your body and your mind into a more relaxed state when you have sex. Hello erection.
* Don't rush it. The worst thing that can happen is thinking 'OMG I NEED TO BE HARD RIGHT NOW'. It gets you tense. If you lose wood, just slow things down, kiss, be passionate. If she's worth a damn she'll understand.
* If you lose your erection, give your girl *great foreplay*. She won't give a damn if you lost your wood if you're eating her out like a berzerk genius. In fact, variety is what makes sex great.
This is basically how I solved it. If I lost my erection, I'd just eat my girl out, finger her like a pro or caress her whole body. Not only did she LOVE this, but it gave me the confidence of knowing that no matter how unreliable my **** was, I'd still avoid humiliation/embarassment/ruining the sex.
With that confidence, I became more and more relaxed and instinctual in bed. Now I never, ever lose my erection, but before I was going through like ten condoms every time we had sex!
Foreplay + Generous Lover = satisfied girl
Satisfied Girl + Lots of Sex + Relaxed body state = train your body to stay hard.
= Erecto Supremo.
Also, hit the gym, because it'll give you better flexibility and stamina.
Anyone else got any bright ideas?
* Get a girl who you are really comfortable with (with me, it was nerves - I was so busy thinking about where to kiss and where to tweak that my **** got scared by all the intellectualising and retreat into it's shell).
Have sex regularly, and make sure she is cool with your 'problem'. You'll feel far less pressure, and if you have a good rapport with the girl, you should CONDITION your body and your mind into a more relaxed state when you have sex. Hello erection.
* Don't rush it. The worst thing that can happen is thinking 'OMG I NEED TO BE HARD RIGHT NOW'. It gets you tense. If you lose wood, just slow things down, kiss, be passionate. If she's worth a damn she'll understand.
* If you lose your erection, give your girl *great foreplay*. She won't give a damn if you lost your wood if you're eating her out like a berzerk genius. In fact, variety is what makes sex great.
This is basically how I solved it. If I lost my erection, I'd just eat my girl out, finger her like a pro or caress her whole body. Not only did she LOVE this, but it gave me the confidence of knowing that no matter how unreliable my **** was, I'd still avoid humiliation/embarassment/ruining the sex.
With that confidence, I became more and more relaxed and instinctual in bed. Now I never, ever lose my erection, but before I was going through like ten condoms every time we had sex!
Foreplay + Generous Lover = satisfied girl
Satisfied Girl + Lots of Sex + Relaxed body state = train your body to stay hard.
= Erecto Supremo.
Also, hit the gym, because it'll give you better flexibility and stamina.
Anyone else got any bright ideas?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Rollo Tomassi
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Exercise before you get after it. Seriously. If you know you're going to get laid at a certain point in the day, plan to work out about 2 hours prior. Stay away from booze, stay away from energy drinks (up to two hours prior) as you'll crash after drinking them.
Beyond that, I can only hope you're GF/FB isn't so fat that she doesn't arouse you. Obvious, but it needed to be stated.
Beyond that, I can only hope you're GF/FB isn't so fat that she doesn't arouse you. Obvious, but it needed to be stated.
Could always try the following from Wikipedia. Who knows but couldn't hurt most likely.
To me alcohol has always been the number one cause. Exercise helps ton. Stop masturbating, the rough touch of the hand could desensitize you compared to the soft feel of the vagina.
Relax. Do alot of foreplay. Have her blow you. The normal things you know.
Red ginseng (Korean=홍삼, simplified Chinese: 红蔘; traditional Chinese: 紅蔘), is Panax ginseng that has been heated, either through steaming or sun-drying. It is frequently marinated in an herbal brew which results in the root becoming extremely brittle. This version of ginseng is traditionally associated with stimulating sexual function and increasing energy. Red ginseng is always produced from cultivated roots, usually from either China or South Korea.
In 2002, a preliminary double-blind, crossover study of Korean red ginseng's effects on impotence reported that it can be an effective alternative for treating male erectile dysfunction.[16]
To me alcohol has always been the number one cause. Exercise helps ton. Stop masturbating, the rough touch of the hand could desensitize you compared to the soft feel of the vagina.
Relax. Do alot of foreplay. Have her blow you. The normal things you know.
Red ginseng (Korean=홍삼, simplified Chinese: 红蔘; traditional Chinese: 紅蔘), is Panax ginseng that has been heated, either through steaming or sun-drying. It is frequently marinated in an herbal brew which results in the root becoming extremely brittle. This version of ginseng is traditionally associated with stimulating sexual function and increasing energy. Red ginseng is always produced from cultivated roots, usually from either China or South Korea.
In 2002, a preliminary double-blind, crossover study of Korean red ginseng's effects on impotence reported that it can be an effective alternative for treating male erectile dysfunction.[16]
Desdinova said:
Did you quit cold turkey, or did you use something. I'm really wanting to kick the habit. I'm around alot of smokers, and they are always asking me if I want to smoke. So its hard to quit, you know?
By the way, did you ever notice how a much better a non-smoker's pvssy tastes as opposed to a smoker's pvssy... huge difference.:crazy:
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Is there no limit to your idiocy? He knows we're not fvcking Doctors he's asking if we have had the same issue and our OPINIONS.meitenesrigas said:
This is what men do.
Christ.
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There's no trick. It comes down to how much you trust yourself and your will.Aboleo said:
So fvcking true. From an ashtray to a peach!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ValleyDJing
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holy s.hit! I never thought about that. :nervous:specialed said: