Can't stay erect during intercourse

[SamMalone]

Anyone else have this problem? I'm still in my early 20s and can't stay hard while doing it. I've heard that if you masturbate too much this could happen so I'm going to stop, although I wasn't doing it that much before. Anyone have any tips?

 

[specialed]

just RELAX...loosen up those muscles, and yeah masterbating a lot can be the problem to for two reasons.

one you just aren't that horny when the time comes...and two...you watch all that porn and regular sex just doesn't cut it anymore

 

[DJ React]

Your problem most likely stems from being nervous. Just relax, take a couple of deep breaths, and focus on the females body ( assuming that it is a nice body that turns you on ). Then just go with the flow.

 

[War Against Betaism]

I've noticed that I have had problems staying hard when I had no feelings for the girl.

 

[meitenesrigas]

Go to the doctor. Asking for medical advice on here makes me wonder if you are legit. or not.

 

[LostAndConfused]

Are you still drinking?

There is a thing called whiskey **** ya know

 

[lordson]

you can't do anything if your sex drive is down because you're wathcing too much porn and masturbating to it

just stop the porn and masturbating and your sex drive will be up again, and youll have no problems getting it up and keeping it up

the only problem youll have is holding off blowing your load

 

[spider_007]

What condoms are you using???
for me, this makes a HUGE diference.

also, less porn, and excersize more...

 

[Desdinova]

Stop smoking (if you do smoke). I couldn't believe the difference it made.

 

[SalParadise]

My 2 cents:

* Get a girl who you are really comfortable with (with me, it was nerves - I was so busy thinking about where to kiss and where to tweak that my **** got scared by all the intellectualising and retreat into it's shell).

Have sex regularly, and make sure she is cool with your 'problem'. You'll feel far less pressure, and if you have a good rapport with the girl, you should CONDITION your body and your mind into a more relaxed state when you have sex. Hello erection.

* Don't rush it. The worst thing that can happen is thinking 'OMG I NEED TO BE HARD RIGHT NOW'. It gets you tense. If you lose wood, just slow things down, kiss, be passionate. If she's worth a damn she'll understand.

* If you lose your erection, give your girl *great foreplay*. She won't give a damn if you lost your wood if you're eating her out like a berzerk genius. In fact, variety is what makes sex great.

This is basically how I solved it. If I lost my erection, I'd just eat my girl out, finger her like a pro or caress her whole body. Not only did she LOVE this, but it gave me the confidence of knowing that no matter how unreliable my **** was, I'd still avoid humiliation/embarassment/ruining the sex.

With that confidence, I became more and more relaxed and instinctual in bed. Now I never, ever lose my erection, but before I was going through like ten condoms every time we had sex!

Foreplay + Generous Lover = satisfied girl

Satisfied Girl + Lots of Sex + Relaxed body state = train your body to stay hard.

= Erecto Supremo.


Also, hit the gym, because it'll give you better flexibility and stamina.

Anyone else got any bright ideas?

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Exercise before you get after it. Seriously. If you know you're going to get laid at a certain point in the day, plan to work out about 2 hours prior. Stay away from booze, stay away from energy drinks (up to two hours prior) as you'll crash after drinking them.

Beyond that, I can only hope you're GF/FB isn't so fat that she doesn't arouse you. Obvious, but it needed to be stated.

 

[Ricky]

Could always try the following from Wikipedia. Who knows but couldn't hurt most likely.

To me alcohol has always been the number one cause. Exercise helps ton. Stop masturbating, the rough touch of the hand could desensitize you compared to the soft feel of the vagina.

Relax. Do alot of foreplay. Have her blow you. The normal things you know.


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[Aboleo]

Stop smoking (if you do smoke). I couldn't believe the difference it made.

Did you quit cold turkey, or did you use something. I'm really wanting to kick the habit. I'm around alot of smokers, and they are always asking me if I want to smoke. So its hard to quit, you know?

By the way, did you ever notice how a much better a non-smoker's pvssy tastes as opposed to a smoker's pvssy... huge difference.:crazy:

 

[KarmaSutra]

Go to the doctor. Asking for medical advice on here makes me wonder if you are legit. or not.

Is there no limit to your idiocy? He knows we're not fvcking Doctors he's asking if we have had the same issue and our OPINIONS.

This is what men do.

Christ.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Did you quit cold turkey, or did you use something. I'm really wanting to kick the habit. I'm around alot of smokers, and they are always asking me if I want to smoke. So its hard to quit, you know?

There's no trick. It comes down to how much you trust yourself and your will.

By the way, did you ever notice how a much better a non-smoker's pvssy tastes as opposed to a smoker's pvssy... huge difference.:crazy:

So fvcking true. From an ashtray to a peach!

 

[ValleyDJing]

and two...you watch all that porn and regular sex just doesn't cut it anymore

holy s.hit! I never thought about that. :nervous:

 

[Desdinova]

Did you quit cold turkey, or did you use something.

I used a book called "Allen Carr's Easy Way to Stop Smoking" which helped me quit cold turkey.