"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Can't Go Clubbing because I am FAT!?!?!?!

SharinganUser

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I am not going to go clubing anymore. In the last 2 months of clubing I've only taken home one woman. Other than that it's been nothing but me trying to avoid getting sexually harrassed by these stupid ****ing gay chinese guys.

And if that wasn't enough, I am a fat guy, so this for some reason makes these chinese fags think they can rub my belly or poke my stomach. It's fvcking humilating and it makes me want to beat the **** out of them.

I already hate myself for being fat, I don't need these stupid chinese fags harassing me.

Two days ago some stupid ***** I was watching a movie with (I was watching alone and she and her fb joined me) laughed and pointed at a morbidly obese guy on the screen, and said to me "just like you." I am not morbidly obese.


Then yesterday this ugly ass stupid ***** has the nerve to barg in my room and call me fat for no ****ing reason at all. I basically told her to leave and that "atleast I am not 3ft tall like you."

Then I head out to the lobby because I had some business to take care of at the front desk, and this ****ing rude ass staff member called me fat and poked my stomach. I couldn't believe it. I just yelled at all them and said "So what if I am fat, atleast I am still a foot taller than any of you, so it doesn't fvcking matter."

Honestly I am getting sick of all this **** and I am going to fly off the handle next time someone is rude to me.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The solution to every problem you just stated, and much much more is:

Get healthy, and lose the fat.

This will reap benefits beyond any of these petty problems. It will improve your life %100.

There is no other way.
 

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Go postal.

Just kidding.

You're doing something that's provoking everybody to make fun of you like this. Did you used to laugh with them before when they made fun of you?

And I hope you're working out and following a strict diet to help you lose weight and buff up, right?

Back in the days, I had the opposite problem. I was a skinny mofo. At least with fat people, there is a political correctness system in place. I.E. You can seriously offend somebody if you call them a fat lard.

But with skinny people, there is no such thing. I can't tell you how many times and how many different names I've been called because I was so damn skinny. And people don't realize that it used to offend me quite often too.

Initially, I would be pissed off and I would let it ruin my entire day and my mood. But as soon as I started working out and eating right, I just stopped caring about what others thought of me. Because the truth was that I was working towards building a bigger body while most people who made fun of my skinniness were not taking care of themselves too well.

In the end though, I had the last laugh. I have an awesome physique now while people who used to make fun of me are still the same (unhealthy) or have gotten fatter. I can't remember the last time somebody called me skinny.

Point is, don't let it get to you...so long as you're working HARD to lose that weight. If you aren't, then what are you waiting for? Go over to Health & Fitness and get started.

:rockon:
 

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SharinganUser said:
I already hate myself for being fat, I don't need these stupid chinese fags harassing me.
Obviously you don't hate it enough, otherwise you would have done something about it.

Honestly I am getting sick of all this **** and I am going to fly off the handle next time someone is rude to me.
You can't change people. You can change yourself.

Don't be fat.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Alle Gory, it takes time to lose weight, you can't just put in one hard work out and then wake up with brad pitt abs the next morning.

I am going to increase my work out and stop going out to clubs until I have a six pack. I don't care how long it takes.
 

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Hey it you ever get back in shape they'll just call you a dumb jock. You'll never please them, so fuk them. Just keep biatch slapping them in the mean time.
 

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SharinganUser said:
Alle Gory, it takes time to lose weight, you can't just put in one hard work out and then wake up with brad pitt abs the next morning.
Its easy-ish to lose weight. Its much harder to gain.

How many extra pounds of fat are you carrying? And what are your lifting numbers?

I am going to increase my work out and stop going out to clubs until I have a six pack. I don't care how long it takes.
We'll see. Prove it.


fertileTurtle said:
Just keep biatch slapping them in the mean time.
Pass the pipe please.
 
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you need to stop eliminate fast foods out of you diet first, and start eating healthy
 

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First of all, To the OP and the bat, no matter where the f**k you are in society, some motherf**ker is gonna have a problem with you in one way or another. Rich, famous, young, old, smart, dumb, short, tall, fat, skinny, inbetween, they all get picked in some way. Snap back and have fun with it! You'll only get picked on more if you let these types of folks bother you and you make it obvious.

OP, I need to get you right.

You let this little sh*t get to you bro. Stop it. If you're getting more pokes from people to your belly as opposed to on facebook, you really need to examine yourself and do something about it. Plastic surgery seems ideal, but assuming you don't have that kind of money, you'll have to stick to a strict diet. Get that fat off of you. Trust me, it's a change for the better. I advise you to find some fun OUTDOOR activity or sport, put down that Nintendo Wii controller now! There are guys like you who can STILL pull hot babes, and that's without a Mercedes or BMW.

All in all, don't let your insecurities get the better of you!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Im not fat, but i have been a little chubby and lately i have been working out to gain muscle and lose that 10-15 pounds of extra fat i carry around. At first i did it because i thought i would appear more attractive to the ladies.

What i found out?
1) I am more confident as i can feel muscles on my body it just happens
2) I am way more healthy
3) My Skin coloring is really a lot better, i didnt notice i was pale but now my cheeks are more red
4) My facial features look a lot better
5) I have more regular bowel movements and then feel better during the day
6) Im not out of breath nearly as often
7) I obviously look and fit better in clothing

Besides what i set out to do i gained much more than possibly attracting more women. I respect that it may take many years to get the fat off, but its definitely worth it. Even the little change that i have gone through of exercising has made a huge impact on me.

I really recommend you do this. I wanted to wake up with brad pitt abs in the morning also, but it isn't realistic. However, a little over 1 month of getting back into shape has done this for me. I look around and realize that i have to take it all the way and that if i ever gave up i might never reach my goal.

Good luck
 

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The Bat said:
At least with fat people, there is a political correctness system in place. I.E. You can seriously offend somebody if you call them a fat lard.
No such system exists in China.

The stomach poking of fatties is partly cultural. There's a really fat Buddha with a huge pot belly in Chinese culture and if you poke or rub his belly, you get good luck, apparently. The Chinese just extend that myth & use it on fat people, who used to be so rare that they're almost like Buddhas. :D
 

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Do something about it then. Don't come on here to whinge.

You don't need to come here and post about your problems, I'm sure you can figure out the solution to this problem yourself. All you need is a spoonful of cement.
 

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I want to know where you live? Because it's surprising to me at how many rude people there are, I never see it where I'm from.

Other than that, I agree with what the others said. You shouldn't worry about what other people think of you, but if it comes to a time that you think you need to make some changes.... Then go work out
 

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hahaa dude awesome post I **** my pants laughing at it...

stop making things so complicated lose weight dont cry and change your lifestyle. Diets only work for competitive athletes because their to get them into incredible shape from good shape. You need a lifestyle change fat man. No napkins from me go out there and do it if you dont no one will. Prove to yourself that you can change. One meal at a time one thing at a time and you'll be there in no time. *pokes belly* kapish?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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No excuses from you. You could have started to lose the fast the moment you joined these forums. You must have found the answer to all these problems already. As i see you have over 850 posts and joined 2 years ago. Go get yourself unfattedized if that is what you want.

And if they say something like "You are fat". You say "Your mom is fat" If they say "But my mom is dead" you say "Yes your mom is in hell and is fatter than satan is."

Everytime they make fun of you. You make fun of thier mom. Easy as that.
 

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Dedication, I wasn't always fat. I didn't gain the weight until about 7 or 8 months ago. I used to have a six pack about 2 years ago, and other that most of the time I've been in ok shape(enough to play some bball at the gym). Last year my confidence was actually great.

Now that I am fat, I am getting harrassed about it 4 or 5 times a day by total strangers. Back when I was in Canada, my own mother would tell me how much she hates fat people. I honestly can't wait to get back in shape again so I can make fun of fat people and average people too.

I've decided to work on a reward/punishment type of routine. Today I did 100 push ups and some curls and some bridge exercises. It's not much but it's a start.

I am tired of getting verbally and sexually harrassed because I am fat white guy in a foreign land. I am tired of feeling like a worthless **** up.


EDIT: Right now I weigh about 108 kilos. This is a video I am in http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R1jO8AIIH8k. I am definitely not morbidly obese.
 

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Hi SharinganUser,

I might be wrong, but wasn't being fat something good in chinese culture?

What I'd like to know is: How did the people react when you yelled at them? Where they suprised that you were offended by their actions? Or were they aware that they offended you?

As for the video, you aren't morbidly obese, not even close. I wouldn't think this should be such a problem. There must be something else.


I honestly can't wait to get back in shape again so I can make fun of fat people and average people too.
Uhm... Why are you complaining if you want to do the same thing? Actually, now that I think about it, do you make fun of people often? Because if you do, they might do the same to you, thinking it's normal for you and you won't take it seriously.
 

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Tough love, maybe these people are right and you should get yourself into better shape. It'll only make you feel better and pay dividends in the clubs, only thing stopping you right now is yourself.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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