Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I'm about the same as you: around 135lbs and about 6'2. Except a few years younger, thankfully. I agree with just about everything you said, except the "no cardio" thing. Its bullsh!t. You should always do cardio, no matter what your goals are. It keeps you defined. You could be 170lbs and look like 200lbs, simply because your body-fat percentage is low.JoeMarron said:Haha you think you have it bad, I'm worse off at 6'2 135. We simply have to EAT MORE FOOD. Krueg's advice with 3 to 4000 calories would make it impossible for you not to gain weight. If you find that you cant eat that much then use high calorie shakes. Buy some coconut oil and eat it like peanut butter. Eat a ton of chicken breasts or some other meat every day so you'll get enough protein to gain muscle. 4 times a week at the gym is unnecessary, I'd drop it down to two or three. I really like this guy's philosophy to training and I've been doing bodyweight exercices with good results http://baye.com/high-intensity-training-blog/ but it can also be applied to any other type of exercise. NEVER DO CARDIO, especially when you're trying to gain weight. Good luck to you. Your success comes down to being disciplined enough to consistently put in the work. I had the right information but wasn't consistent which is why I'm still lighter than you lol
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
The only people who should be doing cardio is those who actually like doing it. It's simply an inefficient way to burn fat. Do a circuit of bodyweight exercises until your muscles give out, do some high intensity strength training, do tabata sprints, all of these will be far more effective and quicker at burning fat and working the cardiovascular system than running a few miles or any other form of typical cardio workouts.Eph said:I'm about the same as you: around 135lbs and about 6'2. Except a few years younger, thankfully. I agree with just about everything you said, except the "no cardio" thing. Its bullsh!t. You should always do cardio, no matter what your goals are. It keeps you defined. You could be 170lbs and look like 200lbs, simply because your body-fat percentage is low.
As long as you consume more calories than you burn, you will gain weight. The only thing cardio does is burn fat. However, the thing about cardio is if you don't keep building your muscles, cardio can kill your muscle growth.
So, do cardio while eating like crazy, but make sure that cardio is burning fat and not the muscles you're trying to grow.
First of all your life will be much easier with a good blender and this http://www.amazon.com/Nuwave-20322-...ie=UTF8&qid=1395025755&sr=8-2&keywords=nuwave. You can cook a ton of stuff in there that would take all day in a regular oven and of course a blender for making protein shakes. Buy a ton of frozen fruit and veggies, some nuts or seeds, some heavy cream or coconut milk from a can, and some coconut oil, toss all of this in the blender and you could easily make a shake with 1000+ calories and a good amount of protein. Throw a bunch of bacon in the nuwave and in 10 mins you'll have even more calories and protein.Can you tell me a fast and good breakfast?
Ok, im going to try it. Yeah things in a regular oven take long to cook.JoeMarron said:First of all your life will be much easier with a good blender and this http://www.amazon.com/Nuwave-20322-...ie=UTF8&qid=1395025755&sr=8-2&keywords=nuwave. You can cook a ton of stuff in there that would take all day in a regular oven and of course a blender for making protein shakes. Buy a ton of frozen fruit and veggies, some nuts or seeds, some heavy cream or coconut milk from a can, and some coconut oil, toss all of this in the blender and you could easily make a shake with 1000+ calories and a good amount of protein. Throw a bunch of bacon in the nuwave and in 10 mins you'll have even more calories and protein.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yeah, im going to buy a weight gainer or make shakes with lots of calories, this will help.ChalengeGuyFan said:You'll be suprised how much you have to eat to reach the 3000 mark.
Use a smartphone app to keep track.
I always thought i ate a lot and couldnt understand why i couldnt gain, but people said to me a few times that i dont eat a lot. LolPurefilth said:I have to hit the 4500 mark now to gain. It's a struggle sometimes bit I'm eating every couple of hours and training hard.
I was 78kg and thought I was a hard gainer. But eating like a lion has gotten me up to 104kg that's over 225lb . I'm 6'4" and about 12% body fat now.
Eat eat eat. Serious Mass by optimum nutrition was the shake I used at the start before I got my diet figured out. It's the shiit. Trust me. You will gain.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I said sometimes i dont have time.[S]alvatore said:If you don't have time to cook food and eat it, you're not going to get big. Easy doesn't work with training/bodybuilding.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.