"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Can't believe my anxiety levels - plz help a brother out

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I've been in a relationship now for 6 months and first 4 months was great - little drama, girl was respectful of space and generally very happy. It feels like over night at the 4 month stage I got extremely serious with the girl and I know she's picked up on that and the dynamics changed. The other night she asked me about what I said to my mate about her and it was nothing major but for whatever reason my mate told her friend's boyfriend and he told his gf and then she told my gf like Chinese whispers and the actual statement changed. Now, I know I should just have a word with my mate and I told my gf why you stressing relax that's not what I said but I get very anxious in these situations, over thinking and becoming so consumed with my emotions that it fcuks me up.

Since changing my ways and becoming a man about things about 2 years ago I haven't felt like this but now I'm starting to lose my sh#t. All this social media gets to me too with my gf messaging me on fb it's like instant message and she's there and if I reply and she doesn't I get anxious. I'm just being raw with you guys here about how I feel.

I want to love her and be with her and I also know that if I really start showing my anxiety then she'll leave. I'm not terrified of her leaving me because of anxiety I'm kicking myself because I am getting so anxious.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Why_you, what else do you have going on in your life? Are you putting some of your passion into your work? Are you creating anything? Exercising? All of these things will focus your mind and help with the feelings of anxiety.
 
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