"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Can't believe my anxiety levels - plz help a brother out

Why_You

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I've been in a relationship now for 6 months and first 4 months was great - little drama, girl was respectful of space and generally very happy. It feels like over night at the 4 month stage I got extremely serious with the girl and I know she's picked up on that and the dynamics changed. The other night she asked me about what I said to my mate about her and it was nothing major but for whatever reason my mate told her friend's boyfriend and he told his gf and then she told my gf like Chinese whispers and the actual statement changed. Now, I know I should just have a word with my mate and I told my gf why you stressing relax that's not what I said but I get very anxious in these situations, over thinking and becoming so consumed with my emotions that it fcuks me up.

Since changing my ways and becoming a man about things about 2 years ago I haven't felt like this but now I'm starting to lose my sh#t. All this social media gets to me too with my gf messaging me on fb it's like instant message and she's there and if I reply and she doesn't I get anxious. I'm just being raw with you guys here about how I feel.

I want to love her and be with her and I also know that if I really start showing my anxiety then she'll leave. I'm not terrified of her leaving me because of anxiety I'm kicking myself because I am getting so anxious.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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MOTU

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Why_you, what else do you have going on in your life? Are you putting some of your passion into your work? Are you creating anything? Exercising? All of these things will focus your mind and help with the feelings of anxiety.
 
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