"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Guys,

I havent posted for a while as I have been busy with other things too much...been out of the game for too long and as a result I cant seem to approach women. period.

At the beginning of the year I was fine, approaching a lot and had a lot of confidence. Ive been trying to get a new job and finally I have got one now, and my confidence is a bit better. But guys, I CANT APPROACH ANYMORE! Im too afraid of rejection, what to say, etc etc.

How can I get over this? Any help?

Ocelot
 

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I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

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This gets covered time after time on this board.

There are no magic words we can say to make you approach. You have to pick up your nuts and just go and do it.

If you're scared and refuse to do it, then don't expect to get anywhere with women. Just take a deep breath and do it. Let the conversation roll on naturally.

It's up to you.
 
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You got any mates who can help or are good at this sh!t?
Maybe see what they do, and how they approach, and hopefully you'll notice that the rejection isnt that bad.
That our maybe talk to sum girls that have to talk to you. Like shop attendants or those annoying chicks that hand out sh!t in malls. Talk to them and get your confidence back up. Maybe that will get your confidence back up and let you know that your not that bad talking to complete strangers..... either that or it will fukk u right over :up:
 
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Oh.... yeah.... or just pick up your nuts and do it.... that works too :yes:
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Fash said:
Dude,

Have a read throught his post: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=98512

It will help.
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Ah...now i see why you were looking for the post. Excellent Post to help with it.

Also look into an approach part of a Bootcamp. Saying hi to random people.

Try direct approach. Its much easier....even thow it has a high flake rate.


Sarge On!
 
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See the problem I have is that once I get rejected the first time my confidence goes right down, and I cant be bothered anymore. What Im asking here really is how do you guys pass that problem (psychologically) of not getting down when you get rejected?
 
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I got passed it by not seeing it as "rejection"

If I walk over to talk to a girl, and she is not interested I see it as HER LOSS! She just passed on the opportunity with an amazing and exciting guy who is gonna give her the best sex of her life!

So really, I start to feel good about it, because why they hell would I even want to associate with a stuck up biatch like that anyway????

So I just think.... NEXT!!! I'm gonna give my time and attention to someone who appreciates it.

Also, going into a set with the "don't give a sh!t" attitude really helps because you are simply going in to get to know her, and if she doesn't wanna know... again... HER LOSS! move on, there are millions more women out there.
 
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ocelot said:
See the problem I have is that once I get rejected the first time my confidence goes right down, and I cant be bothered anymore. What Im asking here really is how do you guys pass that problem (psychologically) of not getting down when you get rejected?
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I get angry. Not at the woman, not at myself. Just angry. Then you channel that anger, use it to blind your fear.

Especially when you're bottoming out on confidence, you just need to say to yourself to get the fvck up and do it again. It's like that falling off a horse saying, just get the fvck back on it and keep riding.

Positives, always focus on the positives. And just bloody well do it.
 
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ocelot said:
Guys,

I havent posted for a while as I have been busy with other things too much...been out of the game for too long and as a result I cant seem to approach women. period.

At the beginning of the year I was fine, approaching a lot and had a lot of confidence. Ive been trying to get a new job and finally I have got one now, and my confidence is a bit better. But guys, I CANT APPROACH ANYMORE! Im too afraid of rejection, what to say, etc etc.

How can I get over this? Any help?

Ocelot
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First of all, stop saying "I CAN'T". Then we'll talk.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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