"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Guys,

I havent posted for a while as I have been busy with other things too much...been out of the game for too long and as a result I cant seem to approach women. period.

At the beginning of the year I was fine, approaching a lot and had a lot of confidence. Ive been trying to get a new job and finally I have got one now, and my confidence is a bit better. But guys, I CANT APPROACH ANYMORE! Im too afraid of rejection, what to say, etc etc.

How can I get over this? Any help?

Ocelot
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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This gets covered time after time on this board.

There are no magic words we can say to make you approach. You have to pick up your nuts and just go and do it.

If you're scared and refuse to do it, then don't expect to get anywhere with women. Just take a deep breath and do it. Let the conversation roll on naturally.

It's up to you.
 
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You got any mates who can help or are good at this sh!t?
Maybe see what they do, and how they approach, and hopefully you'll notice that the rejection isnt that bad.
That our maybe talk to sum girls that have to talk to you. Like shop attendants or those annoying chicks that hand out sh!t in malls. Talk to them and get your confidence back up. Maybe that will get your confidence back up and let you know that your not that bad talking to complete strangers..... either that or it will fukk u right over :up:
 
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Oh.... yeah.... or just pick up your nuts and do it.... that works too :yes:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Fash said:
Dude,

Have a read throught his post: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=98512

It will help.
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Ah...now i see why you were looking for the post. Excellent Post to help with it.

Also look into an approach part of a Bootcamp. Saying hi to random people.

Try direct approach. Its much easier....even thow it has a high flake rate.


Sarge On!
 
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See the problem I have is that once I get rejected the first time my confidence goes right down, and I cant be bothered anymore. What Im asking here really is how do you guys pass that problem (psychologically) of not getting down when you get rejected?
 
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I got passed it by not seeing it as "rejection"

If I walk over to talk to a girl, and she is not interested I see it as HER LOSS! She just passed on the opportunity with an amazing and exciting guy who is gonna give her the best sex of her life!

So really, I start to feel good about it, because why they hell would I even want to associate with a stuck up biatch like that anyway????

So I just think.... NEXT!!! I'm gonna give my time and attention to someone who appreciates it.

Also, going into a set with the "don't give a sh!t" attitude really helps because you are simply going in to get to know her, and if she doesn't wanna know... again... HER LOSS! move on, there are millions more women out there.
 
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ocelot said:
See the problem I have is that once I get rejected the first time my confidence goes right down, and I cant be bothered anymore. What Im asking here really is how do you guys pass that problem (psychologically) of not getting down when you get rejected?
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I get angry. Not at the woman, not at myself. Just angry. Then you channel that anger, use it to blind your fear.

Especially when you're bottoming out on confidence, you just need to say to yourself to get the fvck up and do it again. It's like that falling off a horse saying, just get the fvck back on it and keep riding.

Positives, always focus on the positives. And just bloody well do it.
 
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ocelot said:
Guys,

I havent posted for a while as I have been busy with other things too much...been out of the game for too long and as a result I cant seem to approach women. period.

At the beginning of the year I was fine, approaching a lot and had a lot of confidence. Ive been trying to get a new job and finally I have got one now, and my confidence is a bit better. But guys, I CANT APPROACH ANYMORE! Im too afraid of rejection, what to say, etc etc.

How can I get over this? Any help?

Ocelot
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First of all, stop saying "I CAN'T". Then we'll talk.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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