Cant Approach!

[ocelot]

Guys,

I havent posted for a while as I have been busy with other things too much...been out of the game for too long and as a result I cant seem to approach women. period.

At the beginning of the year I was fine, approaching a lot and had a lot of confidence. Ive been trying to get a new job and finally I have got one now, and my confidence is a bit better. But guys, I CANT APPROACH ANYMORE! Im too afraid of rejection, what to say, etc etc.

How can I get over this? Any help?

Ocelot

 

[KillaCam]

This gets covered time after time on this board.

There are no magic words we can say to make you approach. You have to pick up your nuts and just go and do it.

If you're scared and refuse to do it, then don't expect to get anywhere with women. Just take a deep breath and do it. Let the conversation roll on naturally.

It's up to you.

 

[Hoogie]

You got any mates who can help or are good at this sh!t?
Maybe see what they do, and how they approach, and hopefully you'll notice that the rejection isnt that bad.
That our maybe talk to sum girls that have to talk to you. Like shop attendants or those annoying chicks that hand out sh!t in malls. Talk to them and get your confidence back up. Maybe that will get your confidence back up and let you know that your not that bad talking to complete strangers..... either that or it will fukk u right over

 

[Fash]

Dude,

Have a read throught his post: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=98512

It will help.

 

[Hoogie]

Oh.... yeah.... or just pick up your nuts and do it.... that works too :yes:

 

[Tomatoes]

Dude,

Have a read throught his post: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=98512

It will help.

Ah...now i see why you were looking for the post. Excellent Post to help with it.

Also look into an approach part of a Bootcamp. Saying hi to random people.

Try direct approach. Its much easier....even thow it has a high flake rate.


Sarge On!

 

[ocelot]

See the problem I have is that once I get rejected the first time my confidence goes right down, and I cant be bothered anymore. What Im asking here really is how do you guys pass that problem (psychologically) of not getting down when you get rejected?

 

[Fash]

I got passed it by not seeing it as "rejection"

If I walk over to talk to a girl, and she is not interested I see it as HER LOSS! She just passed on the opportunity with an amazing and exciting guy who is gonna give her the best sex of her life!

So really, I start to feel good about it, because why they hell would I even want to associate with a stuck up biatch like that anyway????

So I just think.... NEXT!!! I'm gonna give my time and attention to someone who appreciates it.

Also, going into a set with the "don't give a sh!t" attitude really helps because you are simply going in to get to know her, and if she doesn't wanna know... again... HER LOSS! move on, there are millions more women out there.

 

[KillaCam]

See the problem I have is that once I get rejected the first time my confidence goes right down, and I cant be bothered anymore. What Im asking here really is how do you guys pass that problem (psychologically) of not getting down when you get rejected?

I get angry. Not at the woman, not at myself. Just angry. Then you channel that anger, use it to blind your fear.

Especially when you're bottoming out on confidence, you just need to say to yourself to get the fvck up and do it again. It's like that falling off a horse saying, just get the fvck back on it and keep riding.

Positives, always focus on the positives. And just bloody well do it.

 

[squirrels]

Guys,

I havent posted for a while as I have been busy with other things too much...been out of the game for too long and as a result I cant seem to approach women. period.

At the beginning of the year I was fine, approaching a lot and had a lot of confidence. Ive been trying to get a new job and finally I have got one now, and my confidence is a bit better. But guys, I CANT APPROACH ANYMORE! Im too afraid of rejection, what to say, etc etc.

How can I get over this? Any help?

Ocelot

First of all, stop saying "I CAN'T". Then we'll talk.