"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Cant´have children, it starts to bother me

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Since my early twenties i know i cant´have children of myself (also not possible with medical help). It was a shock to hear but oke, i was young and thought there are worse things that can happen to, it didn´t bother me too much. Now i am in my mid thirties and see people of my age having young children. My ex girlfriend gave birth to a child last january. I believe one of the reasons that my relationship ended with her was because that i couldn´t gave her children.
At this point in my it does starts to bother me and i also start to believe that woman might feel less or totally not attracted to me as soon they know i can´t give them children. I am not sure this is the right way to think but for the moment i don´t know how to handle with this.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I agree, if you want children that bad you should consider adoption
 
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Sorry to hear that you can't naturally conceive a woman. It's definitely not a positive thing, but life's not perfect.

If you really do want kids in the future, find a woman who is open to adoption. That's the only way I see it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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LittleBigOne said:
I believe one of the reasons that my relationship ended with her was because that i couldn´t gave her children.
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There's one thing I've learned over time... Women will actually deal with the idea of being child-free if they value the man more than they value being pregnant.

I tell every[/] woman I date that I've had a vasectomy and it has NEVER stopped them from entering a relationship with me.

When you enter your relationships, be up front about this issue instead of leading her on and trying to hide it. She'll respect you more and it will be her choice to remain with a man who cannot get her pregnant.

There's all kinds of upsides and options to this issue:

1) No worry about pregnancy. Get her checked for STDs and then you don't have to worry about condoms and birth control pills.
2) If she wants to have a kid bad enough, get her to find a way for you to have one.
3) Date a single mom who had the father fvck off entirely. I've seen lots of attractive women on POF with newborn infants who don't have a father in their life.
4) You can always adopt or artificially inseminate.
 
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F**k having children!

Child support, school, baby clothes, feeding, argh!!! Can't blow that kind of money for 18 years!
 
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