You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What is truly shameful is how you paint an entire country as faggots based on one idiot's performance you've read about in a tabloid article. Seriously dude Gawker??? "Today's gossip is tomorrow's news!" :crackup:Burroughs said:truly shameful
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
If I were a more cynical person, I'd spend some time wondering why institutions of authority would discourage non-passive acts of independent bravery.
So anyway, how about those wacky Kardashians?
Repped.Desdinova said:Yeah, I read that story. They're really trying to pussify boys here. Not my boy, he punched out a 4th grader who was pissing him off. Did I mention that my boy is in grade 1? The girls already love him![]()
It isn't just because of this incident that Canada is becoming pussified. Every year my kid's school holds a day called "pink shirt day" to bring up awareness of bullying. I sent my boy to school in blue.The only reason you've even heard about this story is due to the massive public outcry by all the awesome Canadians who are standing behind the kid
As if you would know anything about Sweden. What is it with these generalizations about countries to act all-knowing? Ridiculous. Only 15 percent of Swedes believe in feminism, you will find people of all kinds, same as in Canada, Latvia or wherever. To make that kind of generalization says more about the one making it than about the country.( . )( . ) said:Anyway Burroughs nailed it. Canada is barely behind Sweden in the race for full blown faggotry. Deal with it.
And this fits in the "Mature Man" forum how? That's what the Anything Else spam forum is for. I guess taking two extra seconds to look through the forum titles would be too much work, same as posting anything in the OP about the story behind the link.Burroughs said:
Source?Wolfgang D said:As if you would know anything about Sweden. What is it with these generalizations about countries to act all-knowing? Ridiculous. Only 15 percent of Swedes believe in feminism, you will find people of all kinds, same as in Canada, Latvia or wherever. To make that kind of generalization says more about the one making it than about the country.
What are you a retard? You just wrote an essay length post on faggots in the mature man forum (which was pretty good btw) and now you deem this "spam". Who the fvck are you?Wolfgang D said:And this fits in the "Mature Man" forum how? That's what the Anything Else spam forum is for.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I did read ehre somewhere something about a new fashion of guys using skirts (and not they ware not scotish)Desdinova said:It isn't just because of this incident that Canada is becoming pussified. Every year my kid's school holds a day called "pink shirt day" to bring up awareness of bullying. I sent my boy to school in blue.
There was another event called Best Friends day or some 5hit where all the kids had to wear pink stickers. And it doesn't stop at that. For breast cancer awareness month, they change all the gloves in the hospitals from blue to pink. One of the fire departments here has a pink fire truck. I'm repeatedly seeing men being forced to wear pink here, and it really sickens me. I'm only waiting to see men be forced to wear skirts to raise awareness or rape victims or some 5hit.
That would be erm....Sweden! not so much fashion, but I suppose if you have the legs for such a daring move...Alvafe said:I did read ehre somewhere something about a new fashion of guys using skirts (and not they ware not scotish)
well also we can say Justin biber is from canada need anything more?
good thing your kid have you desd.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.