"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Can you have TOO MANY plates?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
I try to be as honest as possible with all my plates and a girl will not be my plate unless she brings something to the table (some sort of asset). So the more plates the more assets.
LostAndConfused
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Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Sometimes I like chilling at home in sweatpants, cooking dinner for myself. And there have been weeks when I'm overbooked socially (and with plates).
So to a lot of guys on this board, that sounds like a good problem. But every now and then, it can be a pain
Scars
Master Don Juan
Agreed. Sometimes I hit a dry spell and have zero plates, other times I have 5+ plates and getting laid consistently, but it's hassle just to hang out with ONE of them. It's funny how that works, whenever you're getting laid and you're busy all the time every woman wants you, but when you're in a lull and "looking" they seem to scatter.Iceberg said:
These days, I usually have one or two to toss around back and forth with, but to be honest, I'm generally pretty busy these days. I only put aside one or two days a week to try and get laid. If it happens, great. If not, I have other ambitions that I focus on.
But to answer your question, yes there have been times where I was spinning too many plates at once. In these instances, you either get deemed a player (which in reality, is not ALWAYS a bad thing) or a flake (which was mostly my case). A flake being someone who makes plans and then breaks them, which works well with girls sometimes, but after a number of times it's get tiresome and they simply give up. There's some hot piece of ass, that wanted a piece but I blew it off, for whatever reason, and now they simply think I'm a joke. I'd say just be cautious, but be strategic. If you know a girl has high interest, then you have some give. Try and hit up some "maybes" first, and if it doesn't work out, then you always have the for-sures to fall back on. That's the way I've always played it. Some girls will wait until 3am to fvck you, others, not so much. Play the game right, but understand at the same time that there is a time limit for everything. If anything, shag a girl as much as you can before she starts bringing up the relationship BS or things get weird and then move onto the next, but don't try fvcking every hot girl you see, unless you are simply dry. But if things are going well, try not to push your luck too much. But hey, I'm only 22. But that's what I've learned so far in my days.
-Scars
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.