"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Can you have TOO MANY plates?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
I try to be as honest as possible with all my plates and a girl will not be my plate unless she brings something to the table (some sort of asset). So the more plates the more assets.
LostAndConfused
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Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Sometimes I like chilling at home in sweatpants, cooking dinner for myself. And there have been weeks when I'm overbooked socially (and with plates).
So to a lot of guys on this board, that sounds like a good problem. But every now and then, it can be a pain
Scars
Master Don Juan
Agreed. Sometimes I hit a dry spell and have zero plates, other times I have 5+ plates and getting laid consistently, but it's hassle just to hang out with ONE of them. It's funny how that works, whenever you're getting laid and you're busy all the time every woman wants you, but when you're in a lull and "looking" they seem to scatter.Iceberg said:
These days, I usually have one or two to toss around back and forth with, but to be honest, I'm generally pretty busy these days. I only put aside one or two days a week to try and get laid. If it happens, great. If not, I have other ambitions that I focus on.
But to answer your question, yes there have been times where I was spinning too many plates at once. In these instances, you either get deemed a player (which in reality, is not ALWAYS a bad thing) or a flake (which was mostly my case). A flake being someone who makes plans and then breaks them, which works well with girls sometimes, but after a number of times it's get tiresome and they simply give up. There's some hot piece of ass, that wanted a piece but I blew it off, for whatever reason, and now they simply think I'm a joke. I'd say just be cautious, but be strategic. If you know a girl has high interest, then you have some give. Try and hit up some "maybes" first, and if it doesn't work out, then you always have the for-sures to fall back on. That's the way I've always played it. Some girls will wait until 3am to fvck you, others, not so much. Play the game right, but understand at the same time that there is a time limit for everything. If anything, shag a girl as much as you can before she starts bringing up the relationship BS or things get weird and then move onto the next, but don't try fvcking every hot girl you see, unless you are simply dry. But if things are going well, try not to push your luck too much. But hey, I'm only 22. But that's what I've learned so far in my days.
-Scars
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.