"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Can you guys give personal examples of good "kissing situations"?

seth03

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I was just influenced by the post "good night, terrible ending", and wanted to know if you guys could give examples of unique or different situations in which you have gone in for a kiss, and succeeded. For example, "uniassign", a member of susave, replied to the post "good night, terrible ending" with this tip (in bold writing):

"I decide to take it a bit further. I put the guitar back in the stand and just put my arm around her and pull her close. Everything is going great at this point. She's in my bed cuddling, were alone, Im stroking her hair... I decide to go for the kiss."

I think that was the killer in her eyes. You should have kissed her here:

"I had my arm around her helping her get the fingering patterns and everything"

whilst you were giving help with her "fingering"


I thought that this idea was right on the mark, so I was wondering if you guys had any other situations you've been in, or try to get yourselves in, in order to put in a well timed and not awkward kiss to get things started.
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I have a new kiss approach I'm gonna field test this saturday.

Start out with a "Hey, You've got something on your cheek" opener.

When she touches, or reacts, w/e, introduce yourself, get her name and make fluff talk for a little.

Then say, "Hold on, it's still there. Close your eyes for a sec and let me get it (it's supposed to be on her cheek, which is conveniently close to her eyes).

When she closes her eyes, give her a small peck kiss on the cheek, you know like a split second kindergarten-kiss kinda thing.

Then, to close, I'll say something like "Well, I got it off. (smile wickedly) Continue this conversation with me saturday at 6 over a cup of coffee. What's your number?"


"It" can be a food speck or something before the kiss then after it just tell her you made it up if she asks ;)

Man, this will have like a close to 100% pass rate.
 

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scenery usually does it, i was with this girl in niagara falls, we walked down a path where no one was, amazing kiss happened on the first date.

Great scenery, nobody around, good stuff.
 

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I had asked this girl from work out tonight. We went and had a cop of coffe and the usual. When we were walking around afterwards we (I, really) stopped for a while and talked a bit, I had my arm around her waist. She was shaking, it was cold. Not that cold, tough.

I was just thinking about if I should kiss her on our first date when she was babbling away - I remembered her saying earlier that she can't stop babbling when she's nervous.

She was nervous and babbling. I just said "Shut up" and kissed her smack on the mouth.

She kissed me back and even came for a second taste!
 

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I'm gonna try this...more of a funny one not so much "romantic" or anything.

"I will bet you one quarter I can kiss you on the lips without our lips making any contact at all."

She says uh ok or whatever.

Kiss her on the lips then say:

"Oh well, worth every penny."

haha just for sh!ts n giggles dont take it seriously guys!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by tryin 2 play
I'm gonna try this...more of a funny one not so much "romantic" or anything.

"I will bet you one quarter I can kiss you on the lips without our lips making any contact at all."

She says uh ok or whatever.

Kiss her on the lips then say:

"Oh well, worth every penny."

haha just for sh!ts n giggles dont take it seriously guys!
I have heard this one before.
 

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Originally posted by dirtyvibe
I have a new kiss approach I'm gonna field test this saturday.

Start out with a "Hey, You've got something on your cheek" opener.

When she touches, or reacts, w/e, introduce yourself, get her name and make fluff talk for a little.

Then say, "Hold on, it's still there. Close your eyes for a sec and let me get it (it's supposed to be on her cheek, which is conveniently close to her eyes).

When she closes her eyes, give her a small peck kiss on the cheek, you know like a split second kindergarten-kiss kinda thing.

Then, to close, I'll say something like "Well, I got it off. (smile wickedly) Continue this conversation with me saturday at 6 over a cup of coffee. What's your number?"


"It" can be a food speck or something before the kiss then after it just tell her you made it up if she asks ;)

Man, this will have like a close to 100% pass rate.
I look foward to hearing the result to this one.
 

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man thats bordering on sexual harrasemsent

u jsut kissed her without being invited

if you're lucky youll just get a slap on teh face, rather than a kick in the balls like u deserve if u ever do this
 

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Originally posted by lordson
man thats bordering on sexual harrasemsent

u jsut kissed her without being invited

if you're lucky youll just get a slap on teh face, rather than a kick in the balls like u deserve if u ever do this
do you want a hand written invitation signed and notarized???:rolleyes:

i dont necessarily agree with the agressiveness of the approach (i'd wait for some good IOI's first) i'm definitely not going to wait for her fathers blessing to kiss the damn girl.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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To initiate a kiss, I sometimes tap my lips with my index finger and say, "Put it there!"

Seems to do the trick!
 
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