She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yet at the same time women say that they can. I’m thinking about what if they second guy she had sex with was a ONS, then if she’s be a bit more clingy to him or put herself around him more than she would otherwise. I could see that because she has less experience but the again it is a ONS, but I think it really just depends upon her social experiences in general.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
If men had options, then they definitely would whether they had hella experience or not. Women always have more options than men yet everyone tells you how the lower her partner count, the more likely she is able to bond with you.
Even guys who are cool with women having many partners will admit that.