"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can Women Detect Attraction?

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I have an attraction quirk where I'll size up a woman from the calves up.
If her calves are too bony or too fat cankled, I'll immediately get turned off before I even look at the face.
I've been reflecting on a pattern lately that seems to be repeating over the years.
If I see a women with nice calves/thighs, in my mind my conscience will tell me this woman has a nice body. I try to do this as covertly as possible and from a distance so I can see the big picture. And then somehow within 10 minutes her proximity level will change and a window for dialog will open up. This always happens to me at grocery stores when I'm not intentionally trying to pick up women.
My question is, are they detecting my attraction or is there something more on a primal level where two bodies of DNA matchup perfectly and the body releases a heavy dose of attraction pheromones?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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lizardking82

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If a man is breathing, a woman knows he's most probably attracted to her.
 

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I imagine my eye scanning is a dead give away!:p
 
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Attraction has nothing to do with it. Women only care about resources (i.e. food, clothing, shelter, protection, children, etc).

Women ONLY care about what you can do for THEM.
I'm not sure if this is true...

But I kind of hope that it is.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Attraction has nothing to do with it. Women only care about resources (i.e. food, clothing, shelter, protection, children, etc).

Women ONLY care about what you can do for THEM.
Not necessarily true. Women will let one man pay and help her out, and another man that gets her wet to fvck.
 

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Women ONLY care about what you can do for THEM.
Meaningless assertion.

Self-interest is not an exclusive female trait, it's a human trait and we all possess it to varying degrees.

I would assume you've communicated with women before on various occasions with the sole intention of getting laid, seeking companionship, or enjoying playful banter.. these of which provided you with sexual gratification, intimacy/connectedness, and entertainment, respectively. If a women couldn't do any of those things for you, would your incentive to communicate with her decrease? Probably.
 
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