"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Can someone explain this to me?

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I just need to someone to explain this for me. Alright, I can go to the mall and get rejected several times, but then when it comes to this one girl at school I like, I just can't approach her. I can make all the excuses in the world, her friends, other guys talking to her, but in the end is that I'm just too afraid of her NOT liking me. So can someone explain why I can approach several girls, but then when it comes to ONE girl I can't do it?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Cremasta said:
Because you think she's something that she probably isn't... unattainable.
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Exactly.

You've perceived her as of much higher value than all the rest of the girls you have approached, you subconsciously tell yourself that she is more important and therefore will take more effort.
 
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Does she outweigh you by 75 pounds, and bench 350? Or is she just that hideous looking?

Either way, you're putting that ***** up on a pedestal. There's no reason to do that. She ****'s, eats, farts, and burps just like you do...
 
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It's the social environment. The fear of getting rejected in the school. You understand that you will be seeing the same girl again and again unlike the mall girls but do it anyways.

Does she ever smile/look at you different than "normally"? Oh smile and say hi to her next time you pass by her...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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