Can someone break down the ideal date for me?

[MisterMike]

Lets say I meet someone on OLD or I meet her outside or some sets me up. What's the outline for how it should go?

 

[darksprezzatura]

Her all over you.

 

[MisterMike]

You write some great posts, I've read a few of them, surely you can give me a framework to run against how mine have been going.

 

[darksprezzatura]

You write some great posts, I've read a few of them, surely you can give me a framework to run against how mine have been going.

Sure, I won't do a step by step breakdown you can quickly go through my posts for that.

Quick pointers:

1) Action date. Do what you would like to do if she wasn't there.
2) Initiate Kino as soon as possible by a slight elbow touch.
3) Smile, be a little aloof, tease, defuse tests.
3) Bounce her location to location while building comfort.
4) Maintein eye contact, dominant body language.
5) Don't forget to qualify her and throw compliance tests at her.
6) Go for the kiss
7) End the date yourself, don't wait for her to do it.

 

[cola]

1.) Baseball game. If you live in a city with a MLB team, usually you can score a pair of decent tickets for about 50 bucks. Especially on a Monday-Thursday.
2 hot dogs & 2 beers.
$80-100

2. Amusement park. Six flags etc. Make her bring sandwiches. Ride roller coasters all day
$80.

3. Bowling
3 games to 300 points + Shoe rental & bowling alley pizza
$60

4. Rollerskating/Ice skating
Skate rental + Admission
30$

5. Gym. Take her for a hard workout.. this date really only works if you are visibly in shape
Free

Indoor skydiving for 2
$200

Zoo
$30 bucks admission for two.

It's really f*cking endless. I included low cost dates as well in case your budget is tight.
Anything but a boring, corny dinner date and you're gold.

Whatever you do don't be a dry boring p*ssy.
Slap her booty, go for the kiss. Invite her home. Pull out your d*ck while driving and tell her suck it. Be bold. Unless you have mutual friends it's 0 risk involved. Its literally 4 billion other women.

 

[Desdinova]

It always depends on how much rapport I've already built with her previously. If I already know her well through a group of friends, I move straight to an action date.

For women I still don't know very well, I usually use the same formula. First, I'll meet her up for coffee. If I like her, then I'll take her somewhere else. Depending on the girl, I may take her on an action date immediately which is usually mini golf. Again, that's if we really hit it off right away.

After the coffee or action date, I'll take her to some kind of an interesting store and browse things.

I really like the 2-3 dates in one night approach to new women. It makes them feel as if the relationship is progressing, but not in a quick and scary way. A second date is always guaranteed.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

For the adults in the room, the first date should almost always be a Three Bar Bounce. To quote from the Three Bromigos:

The Three Bar Bounce​

This is one of the most important bits of first date advice you will ever receive. When a guy takes a girl on a date, it’s normally to one bar for a few hours or to a restaurant. No. No, no, no, no, no.

The problem with this is that if you’re staying in one location the whole time, the girl’s hamster becomes comfortable and she is less likely to put out. It will show that you’re boring like the rest of the one bar/one restaurant first dates she’s been on and you’ll have an uphill battle once she’s categorised you into the same beta pool as the other losers that failed to get her gina tingling, forcing her not to be arsed about meeting you again. Restaurants are just absolutely terrible logistics wise. You’re sat across from each other like you’re in an interview. Nasty. date advice

Before the date, you’ll need to do some research on the area you’re going to and pick out three bars to take the girl to on your date and in which order. The first has to be nice and open to make sure the girl feels safe by having other people around you while you break the ice with her. The second bar can be a bit quieter or similar, but somewhere where you can sit closer to her to get a bit more physical and playful with her. The third bar will need to be somewhere quiet and preferably dark where you can sit next to her away from other people in a booth or on a sofa, for example.

There are several benefits to the three bar bounce and it’s all to do with improving the girl’s perception of you, as well as ensuring you get what you want. dating tips

Taking her to three different places – without pre-warning her before the date about it – will set you apart from the other dates she’s been on. It will show her you’re a fun guy and it will disorientate her hamster. As I said before, in one place where she gets comfortable she can start feeling in charge of the situation and of you. She’ll be more adverse to risks such as receiving your advances because of the state of comfort she’s in that she won’t want to leave or allow you to break through.

You won’t be stuck with the ****ty logistics of being sat opposite her and suggesting you move from one table to somewhere else in the bar will expose your intentions awkwardly to the point where it’ll be a turn off. By leaving the bar altogether for another one makes you seem like there’s other places you want to visit, that you know what you’re doing, that you’re leading the charge and that you’ve done this before. Girls love to be whisked away on adventures, they don’t want dull and boring. This breaks the mould.

It’s also important in the Three Step Escalation. By the time you get to the third bar, it’ll make you both feel as if you’ve known each other longer than you actually have because you’ve visited several different places with one another. This is great for comfort building and the last of the Three Step Escalation can be executed a lot more smoothly.

What I normally do is take the girl for a a drink in a chain bar such as O’Neills where there are a lot of people and cheap spirits. The second bar is a bit more expensive, close quartered with lots of people in which gives me a good excuse to only have one drink there but it also gives me the chance to sit next to the girl I’m with and get some kino in. The third bar I take her to I can sit her in a booth and feel as if we have some alone time. first date advice
What articles out there are giving you that first date advice? “Take her to a venue she likes”. Oh, please. You’re the man and you’re leading so she goes to wherever you go. This gets rid of all those awkward “where do you want to go”, “what do you fancy”, “what do you want to do next” questions that will kill your game dead on your first date. This will make her a lot more attracted to you, guaranteed.

The one time I didn’t follow this rule I went to a place more convenient for the girl (idiot) and we ended up walking around in Farringdon which I hadn’t been to before looking for a decent bar to go to. We ended up in a Wetherspoons and needless to say, we didn’t see each other after that date.​

Benefits that I see with this:

-Alcohol loosens things up socially and after three drinks you start to see the real person. Even if you only drink soft drinks, the sugar rush will instill a bit of life.
-The whole thing will/should take no longer than 90-120 minutes, which most first dates should, unless it's going particularly well (i.e. heavy petting). You will want to end it before she does, leaving her wanting more.
-You get her investing in the situation - i.e. spending money. You can actually tell her to buy the second round in a playful way - 'Your round'. A study in compliance for you there. Plus, you've only probably spent a score yourself by the close of play.
-As is described, three different venues = three different dates (in her mind).

Thoughts on activity dates:

-Activities are not for first dates. It shows too much investment too soon. She might well hate the activity you choose. You're not seeking entertainment at this stage, you're at the getting to know each other stage.
-Activities are for women who you want to invest in and have proven over the first few dates that they are worthy of your investment (beyond a few drinks). They are for women you know, and know you share commonality with. Activities are for women you have fun with and want to continue having fun with.
-Activities are not for someone you just met. Personally I would find the false romance very awkward-making, as I imagine most girls probably do.
-Minor activities can be integrated to early dates - board games, card games etc as and when the opportunities arise. But certainly no full on excursions in the early days. It's too old-school, too 'romantic' in this day and age. Cheesy as sh!t.
-Activities are for potential GFs.

 

[lizardking82]

I would definitely underline this: take her to a place you would go by yourself or with a friend you've known a long time anyways. I think it is best for it to be "your field of play", "your venue", it makes you feel more comfortable and allows you to lead easier. Definitely end the date first even if it's going well.

A lot of other things have been said above, but I would say also do not be afraid to strike up any conversation you like. Do not try to seem "interesting" to her. You are who you are. If she's to date you and bang you, she will have to be attracted to who you really are so do not try and bring up things that you think will do well in conversationg or anything like that.

Keep silent in a couple of moments. It lets you see how well she handles silence and silence makes people feel uncomfortable in most cases and they say things they do not usually say.

If she says a word or two that you think was mistakenly said, it was not mistakenly. If she says "You are interesting..." and then changes the word, take her for the first word, it was her subconscious speaking.

Keep real dates at restaurants and fancy places for women that really submit and whose company you genuinely enjoy. This is the most important rule of thumb even from a mindset point of view: reward good behaviour and company; do not reward someone you don't know with stuff they most probably don't deserve anyways.

 

[Bingo-Player]

a girl who has agreed to date you should be interested enough to make things simple for you

it doesn't really matter what you do its just a chance for you to get a feel for each other face to face

sometimes you will meet a girl and you will just be able to feel the energy between you if you get this then there isnt much you can go wrong with

if shes interested in having sex with you she will submiss for you , all you have to do is direct her into bed