mr. kennedy
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I would say yes if the plate is in your social circle but no if you are approaching strangers.
Thoughts?
Thoughts?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Can low energy guys do well with women?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
mr. kennedy
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I'm a tall, well built, athletic guy.
It's just that convos takes a lot of energy out of me. As if I just ran a 5 mile marathon.
I'm not charismatic right off the bat, women fall for me as they get to know me.
It's just that convos takes a lot of energy out of me. As if I just ran a 5 mile marathon.
I'm not charismatic right off the bat, women fall for me as they get to know me.
DonJuanit0
Master Don Juan
I pretty much have the same think (I will not call it a problem). I have been with a lot of women for my age and I think there have been only 2 that I didn't know at all.
You said it would be a yes if it was from your social circle. Well, how about expanding that circle? Best thing about it? You don't even have to do it! Meet friends of friends, friends of co-workers etc. Expand that circle!
I myself feel very uncomfortable going straight up to a stranger and talking. Nevertheless, when I get to meet a woman I am interested in (via social circle) I will attack full strength! I love talking to women and I love that thing that you say it drains you out.
I think a more important question for you is, is it really your "energy" that holds you back or your fear of approaching?
You said it would be a yes if it was from your social circle. Well, how about expanding that circle? Best thing about it? You don't even have to do it! Meet friends of friends, friends of co-workers etc. Expand that circle!
I myself feel very uncomfortable going straight up to a stranger and talking. Nevertheless, when I get to meet a woman I am interested in (via social circle) I will attack full strength! I love talking to women and I love that thing that you say it drains you out.
I think a more important question for you is, is it really your "energy" that holds you back or your fear of approaching?
Mike32ct
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A more chill, low energy guy will do better one on one than with groups. He probably won't be the guy gaming a group of women. Either do social circle or cold approach lone wolves.