mr. kennedy
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I would say yes if the plate is in your social circle but no if you are approaching strangers.
Thoughts?
Thoughts?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Can low energy guys do well with women?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
mr. kennedy
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I'm a tall, well built, athletic guy.
It's just that convos takes a lot of energy out of me. As if I just ran a 5 mile marathon.
I'm not charismatic right off the bat, women fall for me as they get to know me.
It's just that convos takes a lot of energy out of me. As if I just ran a 5 mile marathon.
I'm not charismatic right off the bat, women fall for me as they get to know me.
DonJuanit0
Master Don Juan
I pretty much have the same think (I will not call it a problem). I have been with a lot of women for my age and I think there have been only 2 that I didn't know at all.
You said it would be a yes if it was from your social circle. Well, how about expanding that circle? Best thing about it? You don't even have to do it! Meet friends of friends, friends of co-workers etc. Expand that circle!
I myself feel very uncomfortable going straight up to a stranger and talking. Nevertheless, when I get to meet a woman I am interested in (via social circle) I will attack full strength! I love talking to women and I love that thing that you say it drains you out.
I think a more important question for you is, is it really your "energy" that holds you back or your fear of approaching?
You said it would be a yes if it was from your social circle. Well, how about expanding that circle? Best thing about it? You don't even have to do it! Meet friends of friends, friends of co-workers etc. Expand that circle!
I myself feel very uncomfortable going straight up to a stranger and talking. Nevertheless, when I get to meet a woman I am interested in (via social circle) I will attack full strength! I love talking to women and I love that thing that you say it drains you out.
I think a more important question for you is, is it really your "energy" that holds you back or your fear of approaching?
Mike32ct
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A more chill, low energy guy will do better one on one than with groups. He probably won't be the guy gaming a group of women. Either do social circle or cold approach lone wolves.