mr. kennedy
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I would say yes if the plate is in your social circle but no if you are approaching strangers.
Thoughts?
Thoughts?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Can low energy guys do well with women?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
mr. kennedy
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I'm a tall, well built, athletic guy.
It's just that convos takes a lot of energy out of me. As if I just ran a 5 mile marathon.
I'm not charismatic right off the bat, women fall for me as they get to know me.
It's just that convos takes a lot of energy out of me. As if I just ran a 5 mile marathon.
I'm not charismatic right off the bat, women fall for me as they get to know me.
DonJuanit0
Master Don Juan
I pretty much have the same think (I will not call it a problem). I have been with a lot of women for my age and I think there have been only 2 that I didn't know at all.
You said it would be a yes if it was from your social circle. Well, how about expanding that circle? Best thing about it? You don't even have to do it! Meet friends of friends, friends of co-workers etc. Expand that circle!
I myself feel very uncomfortable going straight up to a stranger and talking. Nevertheless, when I get to meet a woman I am interested in (via social circle) I will attack full strength! I love talking to women and I love that thing that you say it drains you out.
I think a more important question for you is, is it really your "energy" that holds you back or your fear of approaching?
You said it would be a yes if it was from your social circle. Well, how about expanding that circle? Best thing about it? You don't even have to do it! Meet friends of friends, friends of co-workers etc. Expand that circle!
I myself feel very uncomfortable going straight up to a stranger and talking. Nevertheless, when I get to meet a woman I am interested in (via social circle) I will attack full strength! I love talking to women and I love that thing that you say it drains you out.
I think a more important question for you is, is it really your "energy" that holds you back or your fear of approaching?
Mike32ct
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A more chill, low energy guy will do better one on one than with groups. He probably won't be the guy gaming a group of women. Either do social circle or cold approach lone wolves.