Ok guys imma be honest with all of you guys ok,I met this girl on myspace and she is 18 years old and is a senior in High school,ok also she lives in Maryland and I live in Southern California.Ok we text and talk on the phone but she has told me she is not gonna take me completely serious until we meet and also she considers herself very high maintenance but she works at basket n robbin.One thing about her she is always busy with school and then she comes home sleeps for a few hours and then she goes to work,I only get to talk to her for a hour everyday and she text me like 4 times a day.She always acts like all these guys want her but she is single.I plan on coming out there too see her in FEB.Do you guys think I should just drop this High maintenance girl who always seem too busy or continue pursuing her.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Can long distance relationship work
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Come on guys i am dying here I need some damn advice man,this situation is driving me up the wall.Seems like only time she text first is in the morning and she says good mornin other then that I gotta text 1st.I wanna know how should I play this situation out.Should I use the no contact method.
sketchy
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why are you sweating a girl you have never met that lives across the country? you live in California, surely there are other you girls you can worry about.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Now why the heck would I give you her myspace and I am trying to date her.But anyways she just text me saying call her right,so I call her and we get into argument because she thinks I have a attitude with her so she says hold on and the girl took forever to click back over so I hung up on her.Now what you guys think about that.
Proselytiser
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The reason LDRs don't work is because taking a LDR over real life intimacy is one of the most AFC things you could think of doing
Vice
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Time for some tough love dude. Follow these steps, and I can GUARANTEE you success:
1. Stop talking to this chick. You're wasting your time.
2. Stop using MySpace.
3. Go join some after-school activities, whether it's sports or whatever. Just get out there.
4. No, LDR's DO NOT WORK. How do you know she's not banging some other dude? There's NO way you can be one thousand percent certain.
5. You can't "date" someone that's thousands of miles away.
1. Stop talking to this chick. You're wasting your time.
2. Stop using MySpace.
3. Go join some after-school activities, whether it's sports or whatever. Just get out there.
4. No, LDR's DO NOT WORK. How do you know she's not banging some other dude? There's NO way you can be one thousand percent certain.
5. You can't "date" someone that's thousands of miles away.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
If you could pull your head outa your ass for five seconds you'd see that these people WERE giving you advice. But you didnt WANT advice, you came to this forum for validation. You wanted everyone to tell you what you wanted to hear, which was; "yeah LDRs can work!" but the truth is they NEVER do.
Seriously? Dating a girl you've never met all the way across the country? Is it THAT hard to find girls in SD? (NO!)
Seriously? Dating a girl you've never met all the way across the country? Is it THAT hard to find girls in SD? (NO!)
California is California. And if you really have the potential to "bang girls 24/7" in SD why not make a road trip? Its only 2 hours away and would most certainly be less taxing (on the wallet and the emotions) than some myspace girl who lives across the country LOL
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DonGorgon
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shortie
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One word, NO
I am speaking from experience. an 8 year relationship went into LDR and ended in 3 months! is that proof enough for you?
I am speaking from experience. an 8 year relationship went into LDR and ended in 3 months! is that proof enough for you?
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
NO for me!in my AFC days I had one and thats why I ended up on this site,because of her...Young girls want fun,how will you give her when you are far away?I say leave her and go for someone else
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.