Ok guys imma be honest with all of you guys ok,I met this girl on myspace and she is 18 years old and is a senior in High school,ok also she lives in Maryland and I live in Southern California.Ok we text and talk on the phone but she has told me she is not gonna take me completely serious until we meet and also she considers herself very high maintenance but she works at basket n robbin.One thing about her she is always busy with school and then she comes home sleeps for a few hours and then she goes to work,I only get to talk to her for a hour everyday and she text me like 4 times a day.She always acts like all these guys want her but she is single.I plan on coming out there too see her in FEB.Do you guys think I should just drop this High maintenance girl who always seem too busy or continue pursuing her.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Can long distance relationship work
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Come on guys i am dying here I need some damn advice man,this situation is driving me up the wall.Seems like only time she text first is in the morning and she says good mornin other then that I gotta text 1st.I wanna know how should I play this situation out.Should I use the no contact method.
sketchy
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why are you sweating a girl you have never met that lives across the country? you live in California, surely there are other you girls you can worry about.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Now why the heck would I give you her myspace and I am trying to date her.But anyways she just text me saying call her right,so I call her and we get into argument because she thinks I have a attitude with her so she says hold on and the girl took forever to click back over so I hung up on her.Now what you guys think about that.
Proselytiser
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The reason LDRs don't work is because taking a LDR over real life intimacy is one of the most AFC things you could think of doing
Vice
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Time for some tough love dude. Follow these steps, and I can GUARANTEE you success:
1. Stop talking to this chick. You're wasting your time.
2. Stop using MySpace.
3. Go join some after-school activities, whether it's sports or whatever. Just get out there.
4. No, LDR's DO NOT WORK. How do you know she's not banging some other dude? There's NO way you can be one thousand percent certain.
5. You can't "date" someone that's thousands of miles away.
1. Stop talking to this chick. You're wasting your time.
2. Stop using MySpace.
3. Go join some after-school activities, whether it's sports or whatever. Just get out there.
4. No, LDR's DO NOT WORK. How do you know she's not banging some other dude? There's NO way you can be one thousand percent certain.
5. You can't "date" someone that's thousands of miles away.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
If you could pull your head outa your ass for five seconds you'd see that these people WERE giving you advice. But you didnt WANT advice, you came to this forum for validation. You wanted everyone to tell you what you wanted to hear, which was; "yeah LDRs can work!" but the truth is they NEVER do.
Seriously? Dating a girl you've never met all the way across the country? Is it THAT hard to find girls in SD? (NO!)
Seriously? Dating a girl you've never met all the way across the country? Is it THAT hard to find girls in SD? (NO!)
California is California. And if you really have the potential to "bang girls 24/7" in SD why not make a road trip? Its only 2 hours away and would most certainly be less taxing (on the wallet and the emotions) than some myspace girl who lives across the country LOL
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
DonGorgon
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shortie
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One word, NO
I am speaking from experience. an 8 year relationship went into LDR and ended in 3 months! is that proof enough for you?
I am speaking from experience. an 8 year relationship went into LDR and ended in 3 months! is that proof enough for you?
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
NO for me!in my AFC days I had one and thats why I ended up on this site,because of her...Young girls want fun,how will you give her when you are far away?I say leave her and go for someone else
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.