"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Can I send a text message to ask her out?

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blue11199

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im a college student, and im already pretty fond of the girl i want to ask out. we've hanged out before in groups, and im pretty sure she is interested in me. last time we hung out was a few weeks ago with a couple friends. she is fairly busy and involved in various activities, and i dont know her class schedule. ive never actually been with her one on one

is it ok if i just send a short, simple, and informal text message to ask her out to get something to eat sometime whenever she's free instead of calling her?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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blue11199 said:
im a college student, and im already pretty fond of the girl i want to ask out. we've hanged out before in groups, and im pretty sure she is interested in me. last time we hung out was a few weeks ago. she is fairly busy and involved in various activities, and i dont know her class schedule.
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So what?

is it ok if i just send a short, simple, and informal text message to ask her out to get something to eat sometime whenever she's free instead of calling her?
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You sound like a chump AFC. (I'm just sayin) but no, call her. Keep the convo short and to the point. Go on some type of action date (Skating, Dancing, ect.). When you call her, assume she will say yes. Give her two dates to choose from, Tuesday or Wednesday. Whatever you do dont say anything along th lines of "Hi, please go out with me.." or "You wanna hang out sometime". Dont be a chump.
 
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I would never ask someone out on a text message.. I would however confirm that plans are on or set a specific date or time on a txt after talking on the phone or in person about it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Trendsetter said:
Lol u guys are too much. Txt her, or call, doesn't make any difference.
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it really doesn't matter these days. i've setup dates by calling, text, facebook, myspace, im.
 
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