"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Can I send a text message to ask her out?

blue11199

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im a college student, and im already pretty fond of the girl i want to ask out. we've hanged out before in groups, and im pretty sure she is interested in me. last time we hung out was a few weeks ago with a couple friends. she is fairly busy and involved in various activities, and i dont know her class schedule. ive never actually been with her one on one

is it ok if i just send a short, simple, and informal text message to ask her out to get something to eat sometime whenever she's free instead of calling her?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Hidden-Hand

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blue11199 said:
im a college student, and im already pretty fond of the girl i want to ask out. we've hanged out before in groups, and im pretty sure she is interested in me. last time we hung out was a few weeks ago. she is fairly busy and involved in various activities, and i dont know her class schedule.
So what?

is it ok if i just send a short, simple, and informal text message to ask her out to get something to eat sometime whenever she's free instead of calling her?
You sound like a chump AFC. (I'm just sayin) but no, call her. Keep the convo short and to the point. Go on some type of action date (Skating, Dancing, ect.). When you call her, assume she will say yes. Give her two dates to choose from, Tuesday or Wednesday. Whatever you do dont say anything along th lines of "Hi, please go out with me.." or "You wanna hang out sometime". Dont be a chump.
 

Deadly_Ripped

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I would never ask someone out on a text message.. I would however confirm that plans are on or set a specific date or time on a txt after talking on the phone or in person about it.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Paintballguy

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Trendsetter said:
Lol u guys are too much. Txt her, or call, doesn't make any difference.
it really doesn't matter these days. i've setup dates by calling, text, facebook, myspace, im.
 
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