"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Can I really consider this type of person a true friend?

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It's been a while since I've posted here. Lately I've been thinking of a friend of mine (not female) and I haven't seen him for just about the entire summer all because he went AFC for some stupid b!tch he was also friends with for a while. This wh*re just uses him for the fact that he can provide her with materialistic needs, and drive her anywhere she wants to go. I mean we used to do alot togethor and we became somewhat dependant on one another. We became very close friends over a short period of time. I moved less than a year ago and he knows that he's practically the only friend I have and built alot of rapport with (esp. knowing all the fake ppl that live around here). I just don't understand why he would sell with some crack wh*re and not hang out with his friend more than once in an entire summer vacation. If I was to have a girlfriend at the moment I would also think about my friends too you know? I would know how boring life gets during this time of year, give my friend a call and say something like "Hey, be ready I'm coming over". I know he's going to get his feelings hurt bad when it's all over and I'm not going to give him a helping hand when he is need of it instead I might as well let the friendship fade away. The reason why I'm writing this is because I feel guily for feeling that way but I'm very reluctant about even giving this person the title of bieng a friend of mine. I need opinions of some of the ppl here. And again I don't mean to sound like a stupid kid. It's just the way I'm now percieving this entire situation.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A lot of us have been there. We meet who we think is the perfect woman, fall for her and everything else takes second place.
Chances are he's neglecting a lot of things in his life right now so don't take it personally. He'll wake up soon enough and will learn the value of your friendship. In fact, it will probably strengthen your friendship if you are there for him when he needs you.
 
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same thing happened to me..... very close friend i got to know in a short period of time started neglecting buddy-time etc chasing some hoe who already had a bf and was using him.

Its their personality sometimes --- they are just stubborn. I'd recommend talking to him about women in a DJ manner, and once he realises how f***ed over he's getting, he'll realise that what you have to say about how to land women and how to respect yourself makes alot of sense ----

and hopefully he will never be turned into a pu55y-whipped chump ever again with his new insight.

don't neglect him totally, cuz that would be losing a friend. but don't go out of your way to do buddy things, because this guy needs a firsthand dose of *b!tch* to fully learn his lesson.
 
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