"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Can I really consider this type of person a true friend?

Adrian

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It's been a while since I've posted here. Lately I've been thinking of a friend of mine (not female) and I haven't seen him for just about the entire summer all because he went AFC for some stupid b!tch he was also friends with for a while. This wh*re just uses him for the fact that he can provide her with materialistic needs, and drive her anywhere she wants to go. I mean we used to do alot togethor and we became somewhat dependant on one another. We became very close friends over a short period of time. I moved less than a year ago and he knows that he's practically the only friend I have and built alot of rapport with (esp. knowing all the fake ppl that live around here). I just don't understand why he would sell with some crack wh*re and not hang out with his friend more than once in an entire summer vacation. If I was to have a girlfriend at the moment I would also think about my friends too you know? I would know how boring life gets during this time of year, give my friend a call and say something like "Hey, be ready I'm coming over". I know he's going to get his feelings hurt bad when it's all over and I'm not going to give him a helping hand when he is need of it instead I might as well let the friendship fade away. The reason why I'm writing this is because I feel guily for feeling that way but I'm very reluctant about even giving this person the title of bieng a friend of mine. I need opinions of some of the ppl here. And again I don't mean to sound like a stupid kid. It's just the way I'm now percieving this entire situation.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dirtheart

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A lot of us have been there. We meet who we think is the perfect woman, fall for her and everything else takes second place.
Chances are he's neglecting a lot of things in his life right now so don't take it personally. He'll wake up soon enough and will learn the value of your friendship. In fact, it will probably strengthen your friendship if you are there for him when he needs you.
 

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same thing happened to me..... very close friend i got to know in a short period of time started neglecting buddy-time etc chasing some hoe who already had a bf and was using him.

Its their personality sometimes --- they are just stubborn. I'd recommend talking to him about women in a DJ manner, and once he realises how f***ed over he's getting, he'll realise that what you have to say about how to land women and how to respect yourself makes alot of sense ----

and hopefully he will never be turned into a pu55y-whipped chump ever again with his new insight.

don't neglect him totally, cuz that would be losing a friend. but don't go out of your way to do buddy things, because this guy needs a firsthand dose of *b!tch* to fully learn his lesson.
 
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