"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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can i get some examples of qualifying/social skills

derby1

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Ive noticed recently im getting quite good at talking to women in the supermarket etc,

can anyone give some pointers how to escalate, and do more qualifying?

so i dont give off a plutonic..interview vibe?

Bare in mind british women do not like cheese they are quite stoic
cheers
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No questions, only leading statements. Humourous.

"That's an interesting hairdo, what's it called?" - wrong approach.

"Check out your topping! I would call that The Waffle." - stolen from Neill Strauss.
 

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I will give it a go,

if ive already met a woman or know shes coming to date me, im on fire

otherwise im like a set of carburettors that need easy start
 

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Assume attraction, and act like you already know her. Tease her about things she does "all the time" even if you have no idea whether she does them or not. Learning about female nature via the Red Pill helps a lot here, as all women are hardwired the same. It's just the software that changes a bit.

One thing Mystery definitely got right is the three stages of seduction; Attraction, Comfort, Seduction. By skipping Attraction and starting with Comfort, you're a "nice guy" and friendzoned. By skipping Comfort and moving straight to Seduction, you're a "creep" unless you're super hot and/or famous.

By assuming she's attracted to you and already providing comfort through familiarity, you're already moving towards seduction, during the first chance encounter.

And put your goddamn hands on her once she's clearly comfortable. I like to put my hand on her shoulder and look at her like a film producer looks at his movie star; "You're mine. Together we can slay."

End the interaction either by instadating her ("I'm thirsty, let's grab a drink...") or saying her name and "...we'll continue this conversation."

Hand her your phone and get her to put her number & name in and give her a quick ring so she'll have yours, or if you're feeling more confident, take her phone and put your number in (saving yourself as "awesome guy" for fun) and call your phone. If you're feeling super confident, hand her your business card with your name and number and don't bother getting hers. "See you..."

Edit: When saying goodbye, right before I walk away, I like to kiss a woman on the hand. It's very divisive; either she will absolutely love it and practically fall in love with you there and then, or she will not like it at all and make it obvious. She could also exhibit no strong reaction to it, but inside she liked it or didn't. Don't worry about it either way. You aren't putting her on a pedestal by kissing her hand, you're giving her a taste of the kind of passionate, high value guy you are.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Derby I d say supermarket is tough. Why don't you try the local farmers market on a weekend. People have more time.
 

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ok i went sober about 5 months ago you see, so literally dont go out after 6pm unless to the cinema etc
 
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