Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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can i get honest opinion of my smv?

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I know im not a model but im not ugly i am overweight i am working on that i fit into large now im 5 8 wight 230.
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=70937092

Im not gonna get tattoos but i want to appeal to the masses in females i like to go concerts and bars etc.. Let me know what i can do to improve style? What i need to eatorwhati should do in gym. if not direct me thanks!

Also on tinder i only get fat *****es i sometimes on pof get decent girls i want to improve myself
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm not a girl, but I think your profile is pretty darn good. You may want to add a clearer/closer body shot, though.
 
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Thanks guys like a selfie or haveto be shirtless? Or just pic taken above waist closer? I am overweight with man boobs so yeah lol can i get honest score?? Howcome tinder i dont get alot of matches
 
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Thanks man well i wanted to use thoae because my friends guitar and i was with paulie shore i donthave alotofgoodpics u know??? I changed them arethose good now??
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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No, I think you need the one with you on stage because 1) It shows your whole body and 2) It shows you are cool.
 

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you're an average looking dude, short, chubby...I dont know man, what do you expect?
Besides, you try to hook up with girls online...I dont know how a girl is gonna want to meet you when she gets dozens of messages from guys that look like you...

I guess you should improve your social circle instead of focusing online.
 

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You are about a 6.5. That is because at your 5'8, 230 lbs., you are fat.

The good news is that you have more potential than the average guy. If you upped your wardrobe and dropped down to 170-180 lean muscle, below 12% bf, you would be cleaning up in the HB8, maybe 9, dept.
 
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Okay well can i use stage pic instead of mall pic? I dont like that one. Also can i get directed to where i can gain muscle lose fat? (i need a workout sched for mon-fri) and where i can get style improvement? How can i improve\add to social circle??
 

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If you go lift weights for 30-60 minutes a couple times a week and try not to eat as much junk food, that's all the schedule you really need imo. If you want more refined than that, go to the Health subforum.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You seem to talk about sex a lot in your profile, this will turn some off that might have given you a chance otherwise. Just my 2 cents.
 
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Is having a best friend who is basically really obnoxious and somewhat "special" lower your coolness or smv? If so what do i do do i have to not have friends around women? I took sex stuff off thanks for input
 

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You need at least one picture with some friends. To a girl guys without pics hanging around with friends are creeps.
 

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do a cut to loose the extra fat, and once you're around 14% bodfy fat, do a lean bulk.

For the routine, try "Stronglifts", and progress from there.

You can start the routine at the same time you start to loose fat.
 

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You look like you could pull off a crew cut. Your 'do doesn't really look like it knows what it's trying to say.

Save the printed t-shirts and plaid shirts for lad's nights and bumming around town.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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LOL I am flattered that you copied my pof profile. I haven't used it enough to tell you for sure if all the 'about me' stuff works. I meant it to be a complement to the mma pic. I'm going for the "tough, but sensitive" image: http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=76958493

Your pics are ok, especially the one of you on stage. I'd probably add a pic of you with a dog or cat, to attract animal lover women.
 
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Lol yea dude ur **** is good

Which friends pic i uploadedis best i put them up?

Also i dont got lot of dough which style of clothes can i wear or buy that will appeal to the female masses?
 
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