"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Can I confide with her friend?

Caesar

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Would this work to my advantage? I had the opportunity to meet the good friend of the girl I am interested in. I know how girls love to talk. Maybe she could put in a good word for me?
Would it be smart to befriend her?

Caesar
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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GirlCrazy

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That kind of behavior just makes you look weak. Don't do it. If you like her, tell her. If one of her friends asks you if you like her, say that it's between you and her.
 

RaMar

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Its always nice to become friends with her friends but its probably not a good idea to be pouring out your feelings for the girl to her friend.

I just try to get on her friends nice side because quite frankly it makes things much easier then if her friends were to hate me. Then your chances are slim and none.
 

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Yeah it's ok to befriend her friends. Hell you could find you like her friends better than her, and it never hurts to have a plan B.

Just don't use them to express interest - that should be done one on one.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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blinkwatt

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the person a couple of post above me is right,it makes you look weak. if your lady finds out you confind in her friend,she may not like it either. BEST ADVICE IS TO KEEP IT ON THIS SITE OR DONT TALK ABOUT IT AT ALL.
 

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Doing anything except approaching her is easier, isn't it? Forget going through her friends, writing notes, getting your friends to talk to her, ect. ect. Quit being such a wimp and approach her directly.
 

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dude, NEVER say anything to a girl's friend that you don't want to get back to her. EVER. just don't. I've had sh*t happen to me from that too many times to do it again.
 

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Originally posted by lebRambo
dude, NEVER say anything to a girl's friend that you don't want to get back to her. EVER. just don't. I've had sh*t happen to me from that too many times to do it again.
Agreed...... VERY agreed.

As the others say, make sure you end up on the nice side with her friends, but DO NOT under ANY circumstances, ask for advice/help from these persons.

as the ninja said, you'll only appear scared/weak, which is a big no no.

//Deus
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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