Can happy hour drinks 1st date turn into a hookup?

[Sebastian0001]

I'm meeting a girl (matched from online dating) for happy hour drinks in the late afternoon on Saturday. This will be our first meeting. Any tips on getting this back to her place afterwards? Generally, in my experience at least, it seems women have a strong anti-slut defense and don't hook up as easily unless taken to dinner and less likely after one of these kind of shorter type initial feeling out dates. But, at the same time, it can probably happen if played correctly and smoothly/aggressively. I think she mentioned she has plans in the evening so that might also be a deterrent but, if the woman is turned on properly, she will cancel those plans!

I am just back in the dating game after a long time and sometimes I still retreat to pansy weak man behaviors. Before my relationship, I had eliminated this mindset but now some of it has unfortunately creeped back in (texting too much, putting an attractive woman on kind of a pedestal, trying to please/impress, sometimes too much flattery, etc.). Its hard to get it out of the system sometimes!

I'd appreciate any tips on to play this!

 

[bat soup]

I'm meeting a girl (matched from online dating) for happy hour drinks in the late afternoon on Saturday. This will be our first meeting. Any tips on getting this back to her place afterwards? Generally, in my experience at least, it seems women have a strong anti-slut defense and don't hook up as easily unless taken to dinner and less likely after one of these kind of shorter type initial feeling out dates. But, at the same time, it can probably happen if played correctly and smoothly/aggressively. I think she mentioned she has plans in the evening so that might also be a deterrent but, if the woman is turned on properly, she will cancel those plans!

I am just back in the dating game after a long time and sometimes I still retreat to pansy weak man behaviors. Before my relationship, I had eliminated this mindset but now some of it has unfortunately creeped back in (texting too much, putting an attractive woman on kind of a pedestal, trying to please/impress, sometimes too much flattery, etc.). Its hard to get it out of the system sometimes!

I'd appreciate any tips on to play this!

Get close to her and escalate. If she doesn't let you get close or objects, tell her "it was nice meeting you" and go to meet the next one.

 

[Sebastian0001]

Get close to her and escalate. If she doesn't let you get close or objects, tell her "it was nice meeting you" and go to meet the next one.

wow go to the next one that fast? What if all i needed was a second date to get what i want? In this pandemic time, its not quite as easy to line them up lol

 

[bat soup]

wow go to the next one that fast? What if all i needed was a second date to get what i want? In this pandemic time, its not quite as easy to line them up lol

If the girl doesn't even want to get close or let you touch her, then she's wasting your time. It's best to find this out as quickly as possible.

 

[darksprezzatura]

Half the game is done when she's already out with you and drinking.

Get curious, ask her questions. Jokingly tease her a little bit. Deflect personal questions. Display higher value. Don't talk about other girls. Cut conversations you find boring. Tell her a story. Use the cube routine.

ALWAYS GO FOR THE KISS ON DATE ONE.

Meeting in a public place is just for a girl to filter that you're not some psycho. Play it chill. Have fun. Point blank ask her if she wants to "get out of here somewhere quiet".

She'll know what you mean.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I'm meeting a girl (matched from online dating) for happy hour drinks in the late afternoon on Saturday. This will be our first meeting. Any tips on getting this back to her place afterwards? Generally, in my experience at least, it seems women have a strong anti-slut defense and don't hook up as easily unless taken to dinner and less likely after one of these kind of shorter type initial feeling out dates. But, at the same time, it can probably happen if played correctly and smoothly/aggressively. I think she mentioned she has plans in the evening so that might also be a deterrent but, if the woman is turned on properly, she will cancel those plans!

I am just back in the dating game after a long time and sometimes I still retreat to pansy weak man behaviors. Before my relationship, I had eliminated this mindset but now some of it has unfortunately creeped back in (texting too much, putting an attractive woman on kind of a pedestal, trying to please/impress, sometimes too much flattery, etc.). Its hard to get it out of the system sometimes!

I'd appreciate any tips on to play this!

It's as easy as bringing up something "cool" at your place in Convo earlier in the date and then inviting her to check it out as you are getting ready to leave.

Or like last night, I was outside with a woman on a first date and there were these biting flies that were annoying as hell and I said "Let's get out of here...these flies are really annoying...my place is about 5 minutes from here if you wanted to come have another drink and hang out for a little while"

And she said "Yeah, that sounds good".

It's honestly that easy. If she likes you she will more than likely go. Guys overthink this way too much.

 

[Sebastian0001]

Half the game is done when she's already out with you and drinking.

Get curious, ask her questions. Jokingly tease her a little bit. Deflect personal questions. Display higher value. Don't talk about other girls. Cut conversations you find boring. Tell her a story. Use the cube routine.

ALWAYS GO FOR THE KISS ON DATE ONE.

Meeting in a public place is just for a girl to filter that you're not some psycho. Play it chill. Have fun. Point blank ask her if she wants to "get out of here somewhere quiet".

She'll know what you mean.

I chose the public place and the nature of the first date so how is she filtering? Just curious but what is the purpose of deflecting personal questions and not talking about other girls?

 

[Sebastian0001]

It's as easy as bringing up something "cool" at your place in Convo earlier in the date and then inviting her to check it out as you are getting ready to leave.

Or like last night, I was outside with a woman on a first date and there were these biting flies that were annoying as hell and I said "Let's get out of here...these flies are really annoying...my place is about 5 minutes from here if you wanted to come have another drink and hang out for a little while"

And she said "Yeah, that sounds good".

It's honestly that easy. If she likes you she will more than likely go. Guys overthink this way too much.

Good points! What do I do if we are, however, meeting closer to her place? She would have to invite me.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Good points! What do I do if we are, however, meeting closer to her place? She would have to invite me.

Bring up the "cool" thing at your place and then ask her what the coolest thing is that she has at hers.

Then as you are getting ready to leave bring up how you'd love to see whatever she said sometime...she may ask you to come over

 

[Sebastian0001]

Bring up the "cool" thing at your place and then ask her what the coolest thing is that she has at hers.

Then as you are getting ready to leave bring up how you'd love to see whatever she said sometime...she may ask you to come over

what's an example of a cool thing? lol my apartment is boring

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Of course, always have.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

what's an example of a cool thing? lol my apartment is boring

Could be anything...you need to be creative.

Aquarium, cool artwork, cool decorative things, etc...

Maybe even something like an old stove at your apartment..."I have the oldest stove in existence...you should come check out what I have to cook on" if you talked to her about cooking or it's one of your interests, etc...

Doesn't need to be anything in particular...how you present it is the key

 

[nicksaiz65]

Could be anything...you need to be creative.

Aquarium, cool artwork, cool decorative things, etc...

Maybe even something like an old stove at your apartment..."I have the oldest stove in existence...you should come check out what I have to cook on" if you talked to her about cooking or it's one of your interests, etc...

Doesn't need to be anything in particular...how you present it is the key

Out of curiosity, what pull excuse are you using to bring her back to your room these days?

My excuse is “I want to show you my book collection.” My book collection actually is pretty nice, I have a ton of really good Philosophy books.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Out of curiosity, what pull excuse are you using to bring her back to your room these days?

My excuse is “I want to show you my book collection.” My book collection actually is pretty nice, I have a ton of really good Philosophy books.

I mean last night, I just said "My place is only a few minutes away from here if you want to come have another drink with me" and she happily accepted.

Sometimes we make it too hard on ourselves.

 

[lost_blackbird]

"I'd like to try my new c0cktail shaker out...."

 

[SW15]

Yes, it can. Saturday is a good day for that to happen since she likely doesn't have to work the next day.

Also, dinner dates in restaurants are not effective in leading to sex. Any drinks 1st date without a meal is more effective in leading to first date sex.

 

[nicksaiz65]

I mean last night, I just said "My place is only a few minutes away from here if you want to come have another drink with me" and she happily accepted.

Sometimes we make it too hard on ourselves.

Oh yeah I meant once you were in the house and you specifically want to bring these to your room/bed to seal the deal. But really any line works!

I agree, I don’t think it’s as hard as people make it out to be.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Oh yeah I meant once you were in the house and you specifically want to bring these to your room/bed to seal the deal. But really any line works!

I agree, I don’t think it’s as hard as people make it out to be.

We just sat on the couch and I put on Amazon music and we chatted for a while, we started getting progressively closer to each other on the couch, I started playing with her hair, she put her hand on my leg and it was pretty much on from there

 

[zinc4]

I'm meeting a girl (matched from online dating) for happy hour drinks in the late afternoon on Saturday. This will be our first meeting. Any tips on getting this back to her place afterwards? Generally, in my experience at least, it seems women have a strong anti-slut defense and don't hook up as easily unless taken to dinner and less likely after one of these kind of shorter type initial feeling out dates. But, at the same time, it can probably happen if played correctly and smoothly/aggressively. I think she mentioned she has plans in the evening so that might also be a deterrent but, if the woman is turned on properly, she will cancel those plans!

I am just back in the dating game after a long time and sometimes I still retreat to pansy weak man behaviors. Before my relationship, I had eliminated this mindset but now some of it has unfortunately creeped back in (texting too much, putting an attractive woman on kind of a pedestal, trying to please/impress, sometimes too much flattery, etc.). Its hard to get it out of the system sometimes!

I'd appreciate any tips on to play this!

Yes my last date was for happy hour drinks and led to a SNL. Just be assertive and act like you assume you are going home together. Do kino tests mid way through the date and progress it up a few notches gradually.

 

[darksprezzatura]

I chose the public place and the nature of the first date so how is she filtering? Just curious but what is the purpose of deflecting personal questions and not talking about other girls?

It's not just her who's filtering, it's you too.

Deflecting personal question with humor shows her that you aren't the kind to get emotional too fast and take things slow and easy.

Talking about other girls shows insecurity, instead if you actually talked to some other girl or she notices other girls being attracted to you, it increases attraction.

Never talk about other girls with plates.

It also reassures her that you'd be discreet about HER if you're with other people.