"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Can Gifts be a good thing?

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So I'm a giver. A trait I aquired from my mum.

To pretty much all my friends, I give things. The other day I bought an inexpensive Christian necklace for my friends sister. Day before I got another one of my friends a magazine he really wanted, but couldn't get locally.

Basically, I just enjoy giving people small gifts once in a while. Sometimes I go out to town, find a poor starving black kid (they're everywhere in this country) and just go and get him whatever he wants from the store.

But for the life of me, I can't get over getting my girlfriend something. I was at a theme park the other day, and they had a stall where they sold cool little coloured, and rare rocks. So instinclively I thought of buying a few and quickly chaining 'em together into a bracelet or something for my girlfriend. But couldn't stop thinking that I'm being AFC. And that gifts are bad.

Somehow, I know this ain't the way to think. But I just can't help myself. I've never seen anyong give a thumbs up to a gift for your girl. Sure, I defintately don't agree with using gifts as bribes to girls you don't have any... relations with. Cause a gift will never buy you attraction.

Any thoughts?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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nothing wrong with it....just dont go overboard with it....what you did buying something at a theme park is pretty harmless (because it was spontaneous) and probably helped....as long as your not doing it all the time i think your ok
 

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You can do it in a more curiousity way more than the reg afc way. For instance you make a bet with her for example...

You: "Lets so who can go around the go cart course the most, if you win you get a prize if I win...(something you want)"
her: ok (Girls love playing games, I once found a yugioh card on the floor and end up turning it into a game by putting it on a table between me and her and racing to see who gets it first)

This way she had to work for that gift, you didn't just give it to her.
 

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my girlfriend gives me lots of random gifts. I find that if I reciprocate occasionally, it is a good thing. got her in the mood to suck my pen0r last time lol :)
 

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Keeper said:
So I'm a giver. A trait I aquired from my mum.

To pretty much all my friends, I give things. The other day I bought an inexpensive Christian necklace for my friends sister. Day before I got another one of my friends a magazine he really wanted, but couldn't get locally.

Basically, I just enjoy giving people small gifts once in a while. Sometimes I go out to town, find a poor starving black kid (they're everywhere in this country) and just go and get him whatever he wants from the store.

But for the life of me, I can't get over getting my girlfriend something. I was at a theme park the other day, and they had a stall where they sold cool little coloured, and rare rocks. So instinclively I thought of buying a few and quickly chaining 'em together into a bracelet or something for my girlfriend. But couldn't stop thinking that I'm being AFC. And that gifts are bad.

Somehow, I know this ain't the way to think. But I just can't help myself. I've never seen anyong give a thumbs up to a gift for your girl. Sure, I defintately don't agree with using gifts as bribes to girls you don't have any... relations with. Cause a gift will never buy you attraction.

Any thoughts?

Give gifts/compliments VERY sparingly and NOT all the time, if u feel u must ... check out the DJ Bible
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Keeper said:
But couldn't stop thinking that I'm being AFC. And that gifts are bad.
And rightly so.

I have a little checklist that must be met before I reward birds with gifts, every other man here should have something similar.

#1 Does she suck it regularly (extra points for swallowing)
#2 Does she more often than not treat you like a King
#3 Does she cook and clean for you (even if you both live in seperate places a chick whos into will do the above now and then)

Only then after she meets the above requirements will I even remotely consider giving her a gift and thats not even to say I will. I should be MORE than enough of a gift for her anyway, which I am obviously.
 

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Oookay. That's about the strangest thing I've heard on these boards, tits. *chuckles*

I like the bet idea, though. :p
 

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Enjin 7 said:
my girlfriend gives me lots of random gifts. I find that if I reciprocate occasionally, it is a good thing. got her in the mood to suck my pen0r last time lol :)

Wow! You bought a bl0wjob. How novel.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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