"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Can Gifts be a good thing?

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So I'm a giver. A trait I aquired from my mum.

To pretty much all my friends, I give things. The other day I bought an inexpensive Christian necklace for my friends sister. Day before I got another one of my friends a magazine he really wanted, but couldn't get locally.

Basically, I just enjoy giving people small gifts once in a while. Sometimes I go out to town, find a poor starving black kid (they're everywhere in this country) and just go and get him whatever he wants from the store.

But for the life of me, I can't get over getting my girlfriend something. I was at a theme park the other day, and they had a stall where they sold cool little coloured, and rare rocks. So instinclively I thought of buying a few and quickly chaining 'em together into a bracelet or something for my girlfriend. But couldn't stop thinking that I'm being AFC. And that gifts are bad.

Somehow, I know this ain't the way to think. But I just can't help myself. I've never seen anyong give a thumbs up to a gift for your girl. Sure, I defintately don't agree with using gifts as bribes to girls you don't have any... relations with. Cause a gift will never buy you attraction.

Any thoughts?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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nothing wrong with it....just dont go overboard with it....what you did buying something at a theme park is pretty harmless (because it was spontaneous) and probably helped....as long as your not doing it all the time i think your ok
 
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You can do it in a more curiousity way more than the reg afc way. For instance you make a bet with her for example...

You: "Lets so who can go around the go cart course the most, if you win you get a prize if I win...(something you want)"
her: ok (Girls love playing games, I once found a yugioh card on the floor and end up turning it into a game by putting it on a table between me and her and racing to see who gets it first)

This way she had to work for that gift, you didn't just give it to her.
 
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my girlfriend gives me lots of random gifts. I find that if I reciprocate occasionally, it is a good thing. got her in the mood to suck my pen0r last time lol :)
 
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Keeper said:
So I'm a giver. A trait I aquired from my mum.

To pretty much all my friends, I give things. The other day I bought an inexpensive Christian necklace for my friends sister. Day before I got another one of my friends a magazine he really wanted, but couldn't get locally.

Basically, I just enjoy giving people small gifts once in a while. Sometimes I go out to town, find a poor starving black kid (they're everywhere in this country) and just go and get him whatever he wants from the store.

But for the life of me, I can't get over getting my girlfriend something. I was at a theme park the other day, and they had a stall where they sold cool little coloured, and rare rocks. So instinclively I thought of buying a few and quickly chaining 'em together into a bracelet or something for my girlfriend. But couldn't stop thinking that I'm being AFC. And that gifts are bad.

Somehow, I know this ain't the way to think. But I just can't help myself. I've never seen anyong give a thumbs up to a gift for your girl. Sure, I defintately don't agree with using gifts as bribes to girls you don't have any... relations with. Cause a gift will never buy you attraction.

Any thoughts?
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Give gifts/compliments VERY sparingly and NOT all the time, if u feel u must ... check out the DJ Bible
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Keeper said:
But couldn't stop thinking that I'm being AFC. And that gifts are bad.
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And rightly so.

I have a little checklist that must be met before I reward birds with gifts, every other man here should have something similar.

#1 Does she suck it regularly (extra points for swallowing)
#2 Does she more often than not treat you like a King
#3 Does she cook and clean for you (even if you both live in seperate places a chick whos into will do the above now and then)

Only then after she meets the above requirements will I even remotely consider giving her a gift and thats not even to say I will. I should be MORE than enough of a gift for her anyway, which I am obviously.
 
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Oookay. That's about the strangest thing I've heard on these boards, tits. *chuckles*

I like the bet idea, though. :p
 
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Enjin 7 said:
my girlfriend gives me lots of random gifts. I find that if I reciprocate occasionally, it is a good thing. got her in the mood to suck my pen0r last time lol :)
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Wow! You bought a bl0wjob. How novel.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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