"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can f*ck buddies go any further?

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Ok. I met this girl at a party. We were both drunk, and I started working my magic. We ended up in the car giving eachother oral. At the end, I snagged her #, and left. The next weekend we met up again, while with some other people. Everyone was drunk or high, and we ended up going to see a movie. In the middle of the movie, she wanted me to "go to the bathroom" so we could make out for a while. I asked her why not just go to the back of the theater (we were 3 rows from the back), and she said the others will see us. We ended up going outside and making out anyways, but her saying that kind of bugged me. Her best friend was with us, so I'm guessing she didn't want to look like a slut in front of her friend. What I'm wondering, is if this still has potential to turn in to a decent relationship, or if it will just remain as f*ck buddies.
Thanks for your response's.

SKB
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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There's no one answer that's going to be right. If you want something more, maybe you should try telling her that - or insinuating it. Read the DJB, maybe it will do you some good. Obviously you want a relationship, so go ahead and pursue it with whatever means you feel necessary. Nobody here is going to be able to tell you what's going on in that girls head, nor will we try. We'll only tell you what you can and can't try - it's up to you if you actually follow through. Get out there and start working at it, since you want it so badly! :)
 

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This girl is a slvt. She'll never be faithful, procede at your own risk.


WEAR A CONDOM! You don't know what's been up there before you got there.
 

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Well, I can probably trust her. She is one of those types that is really quiet in school, and has a 4.0, but very attractive with a nice body. I don't know how many guy friends she has really, I've only heard of one so far. I don't quite think she is a very large slut, considering we were both drunk, and didn't want her friend to see. Also, I layed the C+F and kino on very heavy.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Alright, thanks for the responses guys. Don't get me wrong, I know how to handle women, but I've never found a ****buddy that I actually would like to have a relatinoship with. This new instance is a first for me.
 

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wouldn't call her a slut persey as splinterkb was an obvious participant in this too (be fair dudes.) yeah what bishop said, ask "where is this going" and if she says stuff besides "well i like to go dating with you" - then it's just going to be FB.
 

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Thanks for the advice guys. I asked her out, and she said yes. We're both very happy with eachother, and can't get enough of eachother. I guess the only thing I had to do was pursue what I wanted.
 
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