"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Can anyone give me a little one on one coaching?

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I have a favor to ask of you DJs. I recently typed out a little nine paragraph summary of where I'm at with a girl right now. I kind of did it to get everything down on paper, and to vent a little. It's basically just a detailed FR of our last date, and I want to know what I did well and how I can fix the mistakes I made. I don't want to bore the casual reader with it, but if any of you experiecened Don Juans want to check it out and give me some feedback, it would be greatly appreciated.

Please send me a private message if you're interested in taking on my situation and offering a little one-on-one advice. It shouldn't take too long, but it might be alot to swallow for the average dude searching here and looking for something quick. However, if you have a minute and are good at offering some positive advice, shoot me a PM or reply here.

Thanks!
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You do realize if she was really into you, you wouldn't have time for that kinda sh!t.
 
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Eh, fair enough. We're both at different schools now, so the exposure level just isn't there. It's not a bunch of emo whining, it's basically a detailed FR of a date we went on, and I'm just wondering how I did. That's how the FRs are on some other forums, really long and detailed.
 
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post it here. change the names. get feedback. filtre out the crap. just post it man. people learn from your FRs as much as you learn from other people.

PEACE! GL withthe girl. if it doesn't work out, don't sweat it and get a hobby. Here I am, 8 yrs in the future from when I joined or whatever and I still have a lingering one-itis for some girl i used to like.

However, I don't let it interefere with my life. Once in a while I think, "wow I really kind of want to be with her." but then I go back to whatever I was doing and forget about it for a few days. I think it'll always be there, but thing is not to lete it put your life on hold. ie. I'm pretty much kicking ass at whatever I do in life recently (last 2 yrs), but am I perfect? no. relax.

I don't believe in God, but if thre was a god he gave us all 1 thing: TIME

He gave us a bag of equal time and we decide what we want to do with it. Want to go on a date? Read a book? Write 9 paragraphs about a girl? Help others? All your call.
 
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alright more like 3 yrs...not 8 yrs haha
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Potbelly said:
I don't believe in God, but if thre was a god he gave us all 1 thing: TIME

He gave us a bag of equal time and we decide what we want to do with it. Want to go on a date? Read a book? Write 9 paragraphs about a girl? Help others? All your call.
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That's a nice philosophy there! For what it's worth, the FR took me no more 10 minutes to write. I'm real good at writing and expressing emotion so it was easy and quick for me. I just sat down, wrote down some things and that was it. It was a therapeutic.

Anyway, send me a PM if anyone wants to see it.
 
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