"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Can anyone give me a little one on one coaching?

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I have a favor to ask of you DJs. I recently typed out a little nine paragraph summary of where I'm at with a girl right now. I kind of did it to get everything down on paper, and to vent a little. It's basically just a detailed FR of our last date, and I want to know what I did well and how I can fix the mistakes I made. I don't want to bore the casual reader with it, but if any of you experiecened Don Juans want to check it out and give me some feedback, it would be greatly appreciated.

Please send me a private message if you're interested in taking on my situation and offering a little one-on-one advice. It shouldn't take too long, but it might be alot to swallow for the average dude searching here and looking for something quick. However, if you have a minute and are good at offering some positive advice, shoot me a PM or reply here.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You do realize if she was really into you, you wouldn't have time for that kinda sh!t.
 
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Eh, fair enough. We're both at different schools now, so the exposure level just isn't there. It's not a bunch of emo whining, it's basically a detailed FR of a date we went on, and I'm just wondering how I did. That's how the FRs are on some other forums, really long and detailed.
 
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post it here. change the names. get feedback. filtre out the crap. just post it man. people learn from your FRs as much as you learn from other people.

PEACE! GL withthe girl. if it doesn't work out, don't sweat it and get a hobby. Here I am, 8 yrs in the future from when I joined or whatever and I still have a lingering one-itis for some girl i used to like.

However, I don't let it interefere with my life. Once in a while I think, "wow I really kind of want to be with her." but then I go back to whatever I was doing and forget about it for a few days. I think it'll always be there, but thing is not to lete it put your life on hold. ie. I'm pretty much kicking ass at whatever I do in life recently (last 2 yrs), but am I perfect? no. relax.

I don't believe in God, but if thre was a god he gave us all 1 thing: TIME

He gave us a bag of equal time and we decide what we want to do with it. Want to go on a date? Read a book? Write 9 paragraphs about a girl? Help others? All your call.
 
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alright more like 3 yrs...not 8 yrs haha
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Potbelly said:
I don't believe in God, but if thre was a god he gave us all 1 thing: TIME

He gave us a bag of equal time and we decide what we want to do with it. Want to go on a date? Read a book? Write 9 paragraphs about a girl? Help others? All your call.
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That's a nice philosophy there! For what it's worth, the FR took me no more 10 minutes to write. I'm real good at writing and expressing emotion so it was easy and quick for me. I just sat down, wrote down some things and that was it. It was a therapeutic.

Anyway, send me a PM if anyone wants to see it.
 
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